{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"#75: The Orientation Gap: When Success Stops Organizing Your Life","description":"Success and achievement aren\u2019t just some kind of psychological trick or a shallow distraction. They\u2019re actually a way to make sense of the uncertainty of life, narrow your options of choices, and shape distracted energy into focused action.  In this way, success and achievement work perfectly. They take you from the fog of uncertainty and grant you the life you always wanted.  Problem is, it\u2019s disorienting and confusing after you become successful because it can no longer order your priorities in the way it did before you tasted success yourself. This is why it feels like a mid-life crisis, being burnt out, losing your edge, or judging yourself for not being as appreciative of your success as you think you should be.  But it\u2019s NOT some kind of personal failure or character defect. Instead, it\u2019s something called the \u201cOrientation Gap.\u201d You enter this Orientation Gap when success no longer gives you structure (which is normal once you achieve the success you originally set out for).  When you enter the Orientation Gap, it\u2019s your emotions trying to urge you to reorder your priorities based on your new life. But it feels so unproductive and backwards to the way you approach life, that you risk never closing this gap - a mistake most high achievers make.  But by listening to this episode, you\u2019ll understand how to close the Orientation Gap and rediscover the pure joy that\u2019s waiting for you.  Listen now. Show Highlights Include: Why do so many successful people feel empty after achieving their goals and how can you prevent this pervasive emptiness? (0:17) How ambition allows you to relate to uncertainty in a healthier way (and why this very fact also leads to the \u201cambition trap\u201d that erodes your self-confidence) (5:50)  The internal machinations that happen after success that make you feel disoriented and lost instead of liberated and free (10:54)  Why being in the middle of the \u201cOrientation Gap\u201d is NOT a personal failure (even though it feels this way to your nervous system) (12:02)  What is usually happening beneath your awareness if you assume you\u2019re burnt out, worry that you\u2019ve lost your \u201cedge,\u201d or start beating yourself up because you\u2019re not as grateful for your success as you ought to be (13:06)  The single biggest mistake to make in the Orientation Gap that can forever imprison you into feeling like you\u2019re in a mid-life crisis (16:30)  3 things you must re-order deliberately and consciously otherwise you\u2019ll never close the Orientation Gap (and why your mind will try to fight against this re-ordering) (24:28)  For more about David Tian, go here: https:\/\/www.davidtianphd.com\/about\/  Feeling like success in one area of life has come at the expense of another? Maybe you\u2019ve crushed it in your career, but your relationships feel strained. Or you\u2019ve built the life you thought you wanted, yet there\u2019s still something important missing. I\u2019ve put together a free 3-minute assessment to help you see what\u2019s really holding you back. Answer a few simple questions, and you\u2019ll get instant access to a personalized masterclass that speaks directly to where you are right now. It\u2019s fast. It\u2019s practical. And it could change the way you approach leadership, love, and fulfillment. Take the first step here \u2192 https:\/\/dtphd.com\/quiz ","author_name":"Beyond Success","author_url":"https:\/\/www.davidtianphd.com\/","html":"