{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"353: 3 Ways to Manage Your Emotions for High-Stakes Conversations","description":"Ever feel your heart race or your voice shake the moment you need to ask for a raise, set a boundary, or give tough feedback? High-stakes conversations don't have to be high-stress battles. In this episode, communication expert Heather shares three powerful tools to help you master your emotions and handle "difficult" conversations with clarity and calm. You\u2019ll learn how to shift your mindset from "combat" to "collaboration" using the BEAR technique - understanding how your beliefs lead to your energy, actions, and results. Heather breaks down how to stop viewing others as enemies and how to use a simple linguistic trick used by top athletes to stay objective under pressure. Whether you are navigating workplace confidence or strengthening personal relationships, these tools will help you advocate for yourself with charisma and ease.     \u2728 In this video, you\u2019ll learn how to: Define what advocating really means. Break down your goals into actionable, strategic steps. Overcome fear and guilt about wanting more at work. Identify the right people to ask for opportunities or resources. Strengthen your confidence by following through on your commitments.     \ud83d\udca1 Heather introduces three core tools you can use immediately: Persuade yourself to believe something different: Use the "ladder of beliefs" to shift from fear to opportunity without gaslighting yourself. Be A.G.I.L.E.: Learn to "Assume Good Intentions, Love Everyone" to change your energy and get better results. Practice Illeism: Use the psychological power of speaking about yourself in the third person to remove emotional triggers.         \ud83d\udd52 Chapters:  00:00 Introduction: Handling emotions in high-stakes conversations 01:23 The BEAR framework: beliefs, energy, actions, results 02:00 Tool #1: Persuade yourself to believe something different 03:05 Using a ladder of beliefs (without gaslighting yourself) 04:18 Collecting vs. creating evidence for new beliefs 05:31 Tool #2: Be agile - assume good intentions, love everyone 06:28 Seeing others as teammates, not enemies 09:39 Tool #3: Illeism - speaking about yourself in the third person 12:08 Recap: the three tools for emotional control 13:08 What\u2019s coming next + listener invitation     \ud83d\udcddRelated Resources: \ud83d\udcd8 Book: Advocate to Win by Heather Hansen https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Advocate-Win-Tools-What-Want\/dp\/1642936634  \ud83e\udde0 Book: Chatter by Ethan Kross https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Chatter-Voice-Head-Matters-Harness\/dp\/0525575235 \ud83d\udcd7Book: Shift: Managing Your Emotions--So They Don't Manage You by Ethan Kross https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Shift-Managing-Your-Emotions-So-Manage\/dp\/B0D5YZ42FL\/      \ud83d\udcac Join the Conversation: Which of these three tools do you need most for your next big meeting? Let us know in the comments!     \ud83d\udc4d If this video helped you: Like it to support the channel Subscribe for more communication tips and high-stakes conversation strategies Share it with a friend who is preparing for a difficult talk     SEO Keywords: self advocacy at work, communication skills, workplace confidence, how to speak up at work, career growth, advocate for yourself, difficult conversations, negotiation skills, personal development, Heather Hansen, Elegant Warrior Podcast.       Connect with Heather: Schedule a call with Heather  https:\/\/www.beliefbuilders.com\/contact  Follow Heather on Instagram  https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/anelegantwarrior\/  Website  https:\/\/www.beliefbuilders.com\/  Watch Episodes on Youtube https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/@Beliefbuildersacademy  Heather\u2019s TikTok \u200dhttps:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@theelegantwarrior?_t=8oq50EMkKPG&_r=1  heather@elegantwarrior.com The Elegant Warrior Podcast and content posted by Heather Hansen is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user\u2019s own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.   ","author_name":"The Elegant Warrior with Heather Hansen","author_url":"https:\/\/advocatetowin.com\/","html":"