{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"Why modern relationships are so hard, resolving conflict, creating secure relationships, and how to make it work with Elizabeth Earnshaw (Rerun)","description":" With Valentine\u2019s Day on the horizon, I\u2019ve been thinking a lot about love\u2026not the chemistry sparking lust\u2026.but real love. What does it feel like? What makes it last? And how do you maintain your intimate relationships in a modern world.    In my wedding speech, I said that love isn\u2019t a grand gesture but the actions you take daily.    I don\u2019t think I\u2019m naturally good in relationships \u2013 I put a lot thought and intention into how I communicate and treat my husband and today\u2019s guest was so helpful on my journey to being ready to meet my person.    So I wanted to bring you back to this conversation from 2021 with Licensed marriage and family therapist and clinical fellow of the america association of marriage & family therapy AND founder of A Better Life Therapy - Elizabeth Earnshaw.    In addition to making couples therapy more accessible, she is the author of \u201cI Want This To Work\u201d. Elizabeth is also the host of Hash it Out on Good Risings where she offers advice to everyday relational conundrums.   We first chatted back in 2021 before her debut book, I WANT THIS TO WORK, was released. The book is an inclusive guide to navigating the most challenging relationship issues. Couples will learn to work with three challenges they must tackle to repair and strengthen their relationships: conflict, healing, and connection. Written for both married and unmarried couples, this book brings an accessible guide to healing relationships and creating enduring intimacy. For more information, please visit www.elizabethearnshaw.com.   We talk about:  Her new book \u201cI want this to work\u201d and some of the challenges we face with modern relationships and dating  The importance of self-accountability and relational awareness  The concept of opposite action and how it can help you during times of anxiety in your relationship The things we should be looking for in a partner  How modeling from the relationships we witness plays a role in how we show up and experience our own relationships AND how to break that pattern The Gottman\u2019s 4 Horsemen - the 4 communication habits that can increase the likelihood of divorce How to express needs and boundaries, gridlock and willingness vs. willfulness, hot conversations vs. warm conversations  And SO much more!!    LINKS:  Follow Liz on Instagram Liz's Website  Get Liz's Book ","author_name":"Figuring It Out","author_url":"http:\/\/howwelllive.libsyn.com","html":"