{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"415 Parenting After Sobriety: The Struggles No One Talks About","description":"Quitting Drinking Was Easy. Learning How to Parent Angry Kids Was Not. One of the things I loved about my conversation with Zach Brittle is how honest he was about what recovery really looks like\u2014especially for parents. Zach said something that stopped me in my tracks: \u201cQuitting drinking was the easiest part.\u201d For him, the real work began when alcohol was gone and anger, resentment, and emotional reactivity were suddenly front and center. And if you\u2019re a parent in recovery, you probably know exactly what he means. When one person in a family system gets sober, everything shifts. Kids who adapted to chaos don\u2019t always feel safer right away. Sometimes they act out more. Sometimes they get angrier. Sometimes they pull away. Zach shared how his daughter went through her own painful process after he and his wife got sober\u2014and how his job wasn\u2019t to fix her, control her, or defend himself. It was to stay regulated. Instead of escalating, he practiced pausing. Instead of taking the bait, he learned to sit with discomfort. Instead of rushing in to fix, he learned to be present. That didn\u2019t come naturally. He practiced. He rehearsed. He failed and tried again. And over time, trust began to rebuild\u2014not because he forced it, but because he showed up differently. Action Steps If this episode resonated with you, try this: Notice your triggers \u2013 especially anger. It\u2019s information, not a failure. Pause before responding \u2013 ask, \u201cWhat would make this worse?\u201d and don\u2019t do that. Practice regulation \u2013 not perfection. You get better by showing up. Let time do its work \u2013 healing can\u2019t be rushed, especially with kids. Ask instead of assuming \u2013 \u201cDo you want to be helped, heard, or hugged?\u201d Recovery isn\u2019t just about removing alcohol. It\u2019s about learning how to be with yourself\u2014and the people you love\u2014when things get hard.     Resources Mentioned Marriage Therapy Radio \u2013 Podcast by Zach Brittle Internal Family Systems (IFS) \u2013 Parts-based therapy model Alcoholics Anonymous \u2013 Step work and resentment inventory Therapy & Parenting Support \u2013 Individual, couples, and family systems work Zach Guest Contact Info: https:\/\/marriagetherapyradio.com\/ \ud83d\udc4a\ud83c\udffcNeed help applying this information to your own life? Here are 3 ways to get started: \ud83c\udf81Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: https:\/\/www.soberlifeschool.com \u260e\ufe0fPrivate Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick https:\/\/www.makesobrietystick.com Subscribe So You Don\u2019t Miss New Episodes!   Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website HERE. You can also watch the interview on YouTube. https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/@theonedayatatimepodcast?sub_confirmation=1     Apple: https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast\/id1212504521 Spotify: https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/4I23r7DBTpT8XwUUwHRNpB Amazon Music: https:\/\/music.amazon.com\/podcasts\/a8eb438c-5af1-493b-99c1-f218e5553aff\/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast   ","author_name":"Sobriety: The One Day At A Time Recovery Podcast","author_url":"http:\/\/odaatchat.com","html":"