{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"203: The F*cking First Time: Learning to Sit with Silence and What It Wants to Tell You","description":"Over the past nine weeks, you've done the work. You've set boundaries, clarified your values, and practiced giving yourself grace. But now you have something you might not have had in years: space. And if you're like me, that space can feel more uncomfortable than the chaos ever did. In this episode, I'm talking about what happens when we finally create room in our lives\u2014and then don't know what to do with it. I introduce Bren\u00e9 Brown's concept of the FFT (the F*cking First Time) and why doing something new always feels awkward before it feels natural. I share a recent snow day that reminded me how easily I default to filling time rather than asking what I actually need. And I challenge you to befriend the quiet instead of running from it. This isn't about adding more to your plate. It's about learning to trust that empty space won't swallow you whole. In this episode: Why the space you've created might feel harder than the chaos you left behind Understanding the FFT and why discomfort is part of growth The four-second rule that reveals our addiction to noise A simple practice for befriending silence this week What's coming in the next episodes (spoiler: Blue Zones research and wisdom from hospice nurses) Resources mentioned: Emily P. Freeman's The Next Right Thing podcast Bren\u00e9 Brown's concept of the FFT (F*cking First Time) If this episode resonated with you, I'd love to hear about it. What does your empty space want to tell you? https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/nicole_bachle\/ ","author_name":"SayTheThings's podcast","author_url":"http:\/\/saythethings.libsyn.com\/website","html":"