{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"079: The #1 Relationship Killer with Vicki Kennedy","description":"In this heart-opening episode of The Alchemist Lounge, Alex Atwood sits down with author, therapist, and relationship expert Vicki Kennedy to explore how couples can transform conflict into connection\u2014and why \u201cIt\u2019s Never Personal\u201d might be the mantra that saves your relationship and your sanity. Drawing from her own story of heartbreak and healing, Vicki shares the tools behind the Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) model, how \u201cdemon dialogues\u201d sabotage intimacy, and what it means to drop into primary emotion, co-regulate, and become true allies with your partner. Whether you\u2019re single, coupled, or in the trenches of relational breakdown, this conversation will reshape how you relate\u2014to others and to yourself. In this episode, you will hear: (0:00) The \u201cOh Moment\u201d &amp;amp; Emotional Hijacks: when your nervous system says \u201cI don\u2019t matter\u201d\u2014and how to course-correct. (2:35) Arguments vs. Fights: how to distinguish hurt from harm and why healthy friction is essential. (6:05) The Hold Me Tight Workshop: why couples of every stage\u2014from dating to divorced\u2014can benefit. (10:44) Demon Dialogues Decoded: what happens when your partner \u201cnever listens\u201d and why it\u2019s rarely about the dishes. (24:13) Vicki\u2019s Story: divorce, five therapists, and the training that finally clicked. (27:46) Why EFT Works: the neuroscience behind connection, and how secure attachment makes you a better human. (36:53) Shadow Work &amp;amp; Self-Compassion: why the parts you hide are the keys to healing. (46:06) The Five-Step \u201cNever Personal\u201d Process: from pain to presence, and holding what hurts to release it. (57:35) Ego, Forgiveness &amp;amp; Freedom: the summit beyond the summit\u2014and the realization that \u201cthere\u2019s nothing to forgive.\u201d If you\u2019re ready to evolve how you love\u2014and how you live\u2014this one\u2019s not to be missed. Drop your biggest insight in the comments, and let us know: what demon dialogue are you rewriting? ","author_name":"The Alchemist Lounge","author_url":"https:\/\/alexatwood.co\/","html":"<iframe title=\"Libsyn Player\" style=\"border: none\" src=\"\/\/html5-player.libsyn.com\/embed\/episode\/id\/39643660\/height\/90\/theme\/custom\/thumbnail\/yes\/direction\/forward\/render-playlist\/no\/custom-color\/000000\/\" height=\"90\" width=\"600\" scrolling=\"no\"  allowfullscreen webkitallowfullscreen mozallowfullscreen oallowfullscreen msallowfullscreen><\/iframe>","thumbnail_url":"https:\/\/assets.libsyn.com\/secure\/content\/197241245"}