{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"481: The Problem Might Be You","description":"  Episode Summary: Is "being yourself" actually holding you back? In this episode, we tackle the toxic side of authenticity. While it\u2019s good to be true to yourself, using "this is just who I am" as an excuse to avoid growth is a trap. We discuss how to balance self-acceptance with "inspirational dissatisfaction" the drive to be better tomorrow than you are today. We break down how to fire your bad habits, create a mental "Avatar" for success (featuring a mix of Mr. Rogers and Ric Flair), and use physical triggers to flip the switch on high performance. Key Takeaways & Action Steps: The Authenticity Trap: If you aren't improving, you are dying. "Self-improvement" requires you to acknowledge that your current self isn't the final version. Step 1: Audit Your Default Settings: Identity vs. Behavior: Stop saying "I am a procrastinator." You are a person who has the habit of procrastinating. Separate the person from the action so you can fix it. The Pink Slip: Identify the specific behaviors that are hurting your results (like the "Kill the Joe" coffee example) and mentally fire them. Write It Down: Do not try to improve your life by memory. If you want to change a default setting, you must document it. Step 2: Select Your Model (The Avatar): The Hybrid Approach: You don't need to agree with 100% of a person to model them. Create an Avatar that combines the best traits of different people (e.g., the caring nature of Mr. Rogers + the energy of Ric Flair). The Magic Question: When stuck, ask: "How would my Avatar handle this situation?" Practice, Don't Pretend: Shift your mindset from "faking it" to "rehearsing it." You are drilling a new skill, just like in a dojo. Step 3: Develop a Physical Trigger: The Anchor: Choose a physical object or action (snapping a rubber band, putting on a hat, the click of a headphone case) that signals to your brain it is time to perform. Protect the Trigger: Never dilute your trigger. If your "hype song" is for working out, don't listen to it while relaxing on the couch. Keep the neural pathway clean. Quotes from the Episode: "If you're not improving yourself, you actually aren't standing still. You're dying slowly." "Don't try to improve your life by memory. It's the absolute weight of failure." "Procrastination is a behavior. It's not an identity." "What would Mr. Rogers do? He would care. What would Ric Flair do? He would WOO!" Action Plan: 1.  Write the Pink Slip: Identify 3 habits to "fire" today. 2.  Build Your Avatar: Pick 2-3 role models and merge their best traits. 3.  Set Your Trigger: Pick one physical action to start your work block and do it every single time. ARN Suggested Reading: Blessings In the Bullshit: A Guided Journal for Finding the BEST In Every Day \u2013 by Mark Cardone & Theron Feidt https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Blessings-Bullshit-Guided-Journal-Finding\/dp\/B09FP35ZXX\/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=blessings+in+the+bullshit&qid=1632233840&sr=8-1 Full List of Recommended Books: https:\/\/www.achieveresultsnow.com\/readers-are-leaders Questions? 1.   Do you have a question you want answered in a future podcast? 2.   Go to www.AchieveResultsNow.com to submit. Connect with Us: Get access to some of the great resources that we use at: www.AchieveResultsNow.com\/success-store www.AchieveResultsNow.com www.facebook.com\/achieveresultsnow www.twitter.com\/nowachieve Thank you for listening to the Achieve Results NOW! Podcast.  The podcast that gives you immediate actions you can take to start seeing life shifting results NOW! ","author_name":"Achieve Results NOW! Podcast","author_url":"https:\/\/www.achieveresultsnow.com\/","html":"