{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"Episode 167 - HELD IN HER STORIES: How Macey took the baby off the pedestal.","description":"If you\u2019ve ever thought\u2026 \u2b50\ufe0f\u201cI should be further along by now.\u201d \u2b50\ufe0f\u201cOnce I finally get pregnant, then I\u2019ll feel okay.\u201d \u2b50\ufe0f\u201cIf I don\u2019t control this, it won\u2019t happen\u2026\u201d \u2026then this week\u2019s Fertile Ground episode is for you. It\u2019s part of my Held in Her Stories series \u2014 real women, real fertility journeys \u2014 and this one with my client Macey is\u2026 a lot. In the best, most honest way. Macey got pregnant the very first month she tried. Then she miscarried two months later. She was still bleeding from her loss when her best friends announced their pregnancy \u2014 the friends she had always dreamed of being pregnant with at the same time. From there, she went straight into:\u201cI need to get pregnant again. I need to catch up. I need that baby back. Once I get that baby, I\u2019ll be okay.\u201d Every period felt like reliving the miscarriage. Every cycle felt like proof she had \u201cfailed\u201d again. Until she found my book Fertile Ground, and then joined Fertility Mind-Body Mastery \u2014 not because she was in a good place, but because she was miserable and would\u2019ve tried anything to feel even a tiny bit of peace again. (Hint: You don\u2019t have to feel perfect to ask for help!) In this episode, Macey shares:   The moment she realised her suffering was coming more from her perspective than from her circumstances.   How she went from obsessively needing a baby to realising, \u201cIf I never had kids, my life is actually\u2026 beautiful.\u201d   The difference between clean grief (\u201cI\u2019m sad this didn\u2019t happen\u201d) and dirty grief (\u201cI messed up, I failed again\u201d).   How she stopped treating her body like an enemy and started seeing it as a teammate.   The wild month she genuinely found herself looking forward to her period \u2014 not because she didn\u2019t want a baby, but because she knew she could hold herself through whatever came.   Why getting a puppy instead of waiting for a \u201chypothetical baby\u201d became a nervous-system-level turning point\u2026 and what happened right after. \ud83d\ude09   This is not a before-and-after \u201cI suffered, then I did this program, and now everything is perfect\u201d story. It\u2019s a story about: \u2728Letting go of the pressure to prove you\u2019re worthy. \u2728Taking the baby off the pedestal (without pretending you don\u2019t want it). \u2728Learning that you don\u2019t have to be \u201cdoing more\u201d to deserve love, support, or a beautiful life. \u2728What it actually looks like to get your life back while you\u2019re still on the fertility journey. If your heart has been heavy lately\u2026 If the holidays amplify the ache\u2026 If you feel like everyone else is \u201cmoving on with their lives\u201d while you\u2019re stuck in baby limbo\u2026 I would love for you to curl up with a tea, take a deep breath, and listen to this conversation. It\u2019s soooo healing!&amp;nbsp; \ud83d\udc49 LISTEN NOW! &amp;nbsp; ","author_name":"Fertile Ground: A mind-body approach to getting pregnant - without it taking over your life.","author_url":"http:\/\/www.spenserbrassard.com","html":"<iframe title=\"Libsyn Player\" style=\"border: none\" src=\"\/\/html5-player.libsyn.com\/embed\/episode\/id\/39184030\/height\/90\/theme\/custom\/thumbnail\/yes\/direction\/forward\/render-playlist\/no\/custom-color\/88AA3C\/\" height=\"90\" width=\"600\" scrolling=\"no\"  allowfullscreen webkitallowfullscreen mozallowfullscreen oallowfullscreen msallowfullscreen><\/iframe>","thumbnail_url":"https:\/\/assets.libsyn.com\/secure\/item\/39184030"}