{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"186: Repairing Parent-Child Connections with Ashley Gobeil","description":"What if the words you speak in frustration are slowly eroding the relationship you most want to protect? In this deeply honest episode, Dana Kay welcomes back Ashley Gobeil, our resident child and family therapist, to explore how parents can repair, reconnect, and rebuild trust after conflict. Ashley shares why ADHD behaviors are rooted in nervous-system dysregulation and why healing begins when parents learn to co-regulate and model emotional accountability. Together, they unpack why traditional reward and punishment systems backfire, how to set firm yet compassionate boundaries, and what \u201cconnection before correction\u201d looks like in everyday moments. Listeners will hear moving examples of repair conversations, simple regulation tools, and encouraging reminders that it\u2019s never too late to change the tone in your home. This episode will leave parents feeling seen, hopeful, and empowered to begin healing their own family patterns\u2014one calm, connected moment at a time. Links Mentioned in the Show \u25b6 ADHD Thrive Jumpstart for Parenting \u2192&amp;nbsp;https:\/\/adhdthriveinstitute.com\/parenting  \u25b6 Ashley Gobeil \u2192&amp;nbsp;https:\/\/ashleychildtherapies.com.au  \u25b6 Parenting ADHD Teens Calmly with Ashley Gobeil -&amp;nbsp;https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/au\/podcast\/177-parenting-adhd-teens-calmly-with-ashley-gobiel\/id1619834565?i=1000728325539 Key Takeaways: [02:35] Kids with ADHD require a different parenting lens rooted in nervous-system awareness. [05:50] Parents co-regulate their children\u2019s nervous systems every day. [09:30] Teens turn to peers when trust and repair are missing. [12:45] \u201cConnection before correction\u201d changes the tone of discipline. [18:30] Controlling and fear-based models collapse as teens seek independence. [19:20] How to apologize and repair without losing authority. [25:10] Don\u2019t take \u201cI hate you!\u201d personally \u2014 hear the emotion beneath the words. [26:50] Why authenticity is more regulating than forced calm. [32:10] Learn your own triggers to break generational cycles. [39:20] Ashley\u2019s final tip: \u201cDrop everything and connect \u2014 say \u2018I love you no matter what.\u2019\u201d Memorable Moments: \u201cIf I spoke to my friends the way I speak to my child, I\u2019d have no friends left.\u201d \u201cWe hold the keys to our child\u2019s nervous system.\u201d \u201cThey\u2019re not giving you a hard time, they\u2019re having a hard time.\u201d \u201cIt\u2019s never too late to repair.\u201d \u201cConnection before correction, that phrase will be your friend.\u201d \u201cI\u2019d rather parents choose authenticity over calm.\u201d \u201cGo connect and say \u2018I love you no matter what.\u2019\u201d Connect with Ashley: \u25b6 Instagram \u2013&amp;nbsp;https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/healing_with_ashley  \u25b6 Facebook \u2013&amp;nbsp;https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/ashley.gobeil.50  \u25b6 Website \u2013&amp;nbsp;https:\/\/ashleychildtherapies.com.au Dana Kay Resources: \ud83d\udd17WEBSITES: \u25b6&amp;nbsp;https:\/\/adhdthriveinstitute.com\/  \u25b6&amp;nbsp;https:\/\/dana-kay.com\/ \ud83d\udc4bSOCIALS: \u25b6 Facebook:&amp;nbsp;https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/ADHDThriveInstitute\/  \u25b6 Instagram:&amp;nbsp;https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/adhdthriveinstitute\/  \u25b6 YouTube:&amp;nbsp;https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/c\/ADHDThriveInstitute  \u25b6 LinkedIn:&amp;nbsp;https:\/\/www.linkedin.com\/company\/adhd-thrive-institute\/mycompany\/  \u25b6 Pinterest:&amp;nbsp;https:\/\/www.pinterest.ph\/adhdthriveinstitute\/  \u25b6 Tiktok:&amp;nbsp;https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@adhd_thriveinstitute \ud83d\udcd5INTERNATIONAL &amp;nbsp;BEST SELLING BOOK: \u25b6 Thriving with ADHD \u2013&amp;nbsp;https:\/\/adhdthriveinstitute.com\/book\/ \ud83d\udcbbFREE MASTERCLASS \u25b6 Free Reduce ADHD Symptoms Naturally Masterclass -&amp;nbsp;https:\/\/bit.ly\/3GAbFQl \u2b50COURSES &amp;amp; PROGRAMS \u25b6 ADHD Parenting Course \u2013&amp;nbsp;https:\/\/info.adhdthriveinstitute.com\/parentingadhd  \u25b6 ADHD Thrive Method 4 Kids Program \u2013&amp;nbsp;https:\/\/adhdthriveinstitute.com\/packages\/ ","author_name":"Soaring Child: Thriving with ADHD","author_url":"http:\/\/sites.libsyn.com\/402857\/site","html":"<iframe title=\"Libsyn Player\" style=\"border: none\" src=\"\/\/html5-player.libsyn.com\/embed\/episode\/id\/39180145\/height\/90\/theme\/custom\/thumbnail\/yes\/direction\/forward\/render-playlist\/no\/custom-color\/88AA3C\/\" height=\"90\" width=\"600\" scrolling=\"no\"  allowfullscreen webkitallowfullscreen mozallowfullscreen oallowfullscreen msallowfullscreen><\/iframe>","thumbnail_url":"https:\/\/assets.libsyn.com\/secure\/item\/39180145"}