{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"Episode 18: Divorce and Therapy","description":" When Divorce Hits Home: How to Support Your Kids (with Therapist Lindsey Racz, LPC) \u2728 Grab the free Back-to-School Worry Toolkit for calm mornings and confident kids! Come hang out with me on Instagram @sacredgroundcoaching for more tools like this.  Episode Introduction Divorce is one of those topics that can stir big feelings for both the grown-ups and the kiddos. And if you\u2019re in the thick of it, you already know \u2014 it can feel like trying to parent while your insides are on fire. In this episode of Emotions with Ease, I sat down with one of my favorite humans: Lindsey Racz, Licensed Professional Counselor, supervisor, women\u2019s mental health expert, co-owner of Truth & Counsel, and mom of four. Lindsey brings a rare mix of wisdom, warmth, brain science, and \u201chere\u2019s what to actually DO\u201d advice. We talk:\u2714\ufe0f How to help kids feel secure during divorce\u2714\ufe0f What emotionally sturdy parenting looks like\u2714\ufe0f The four S\u2019s kids need (and how to give them)\u2714\ufe0f When to get extra support\u2714\ufe0f How to know if you need to do some emotional work\u2714\ufe0f Why self-compassion is a brain-changing superpower\u2714\ufe0f And the rituals, routines, and practical tools every parent can use If you\u2019re navigating a hard season or love someone who is \u2014 this episode is packed with validation, hope, and tools you can use today. \u23f1\ufe0f Timestamp Breakdown & Highlights 0:15 \u2013 Welcome + Meet Lindsey Race Why you\u2019re going to love her (hint: this woman knows her stuff). Lindsey\u2019s background in psychology, nutrition, CBT through Oxford, epigenetics & neurobiology. 3:18 \u2013 What Kids Actually Need During Divorce The \u201cTDC\u201d: tough, direct conversations Why honest, safe conversations matter The four S\u2019s from attachment theory: Seen, Soothed, Safe, Secure 4:33 \u2013 How to Show Kids You\u2019re Still Their Safe Place Why words matter less than your presence Nonverbal communication that builds safety The power of age-appropriate vulnerability 6:10 \u2013 What Emotionally Sturdy Parenting Looks Like Why doing your emotional work matters Lindsey shares her personal divorce story as both a kid and adult Therapy, social support, movement, nutrition, and \u201ccrying in the bathtub\u201d moments 8:19 \u2013 Red Flags That You\u2019re Not the Sturdy Parent Right Now Bad-mouthing the co-parent Quick anger, agitation, or \u201cmicro-cumulative\u201d explosions Depression signs that often get missed The quiet internal voice saying, \u201cI\u2019m not okay\u201d 11:24 \u2013 How to Keep Kids Grounded Between Two Homes Don\u2019t put scheduling on kids (ever). Why communication should always be parent-to-parent, never kid-to-parent. Personality differences in kids + how moves affect them The magic of simple, consistent routines (like \u201cice cream + Uno\u201d nights) 16:47 \u2013 What If I Need a Moderator? Who to call Where to start Why professionals and advocates are key 18:00 \u2013 For the Parent Feeling Guilt or Shame The sticky nature of shame The tool Lindsey believes matters most: self-compassion Why perfection is impossible (and not even good for your kids) 20:44 \u2013 The Brain Science Behind Self-Compassion How self-talk rewires your brain What the research says The example of the \u201cmom ball-drop moment\u201d Caroline Leaf\u2019s \u201clittle dead trees\u201d concept 28:29 \u2013 Lindsey\u2019s Personal Answer: What Emotion She\u2019s Getting Stuck In Emotional parenting: when your mood rides your kids\u2019 moods The messy beauty of raising teens The three-word mantra she leans on: Good Enough Parenting 31:15 \u2013 Where to Find Lindsey + Her Team TruthandCounsel.com @truthandcounsel on IG & Facebook \ud83c\udf31 Key Takeaways 1. Kids don\u2019t need perfect \u2014 they need presence. Your tone, body language, and consistency speak louder than any \u201cright words.\u201d 2. Handle the communication (your kids shouldn\u2019t). They didn\u2019t choose this situation, so removing the emotional burden is crucial. 3. Traditions anchor kids in uncertain seasons. It doesn\u2019t have to be fancy. Consistency > Pinterest-worthy. 4. If you can\u2019t not speak negatively about the co-parent, it\u2019s time for deeper work. No shame \u2014 just data for your emotional dashboard. 5. Your emotional health directly impacts your kids\u2019 emotional safety. Therapy, rest, movement, nourishment, connection\u2026 they matter. 6. Self-compassion isn\u2019t fluffy \u2014 it\u2019s neuroscience. It literally rewires your brain and softens shame. 7. \u201cGood Enough Parenting\u201d is the goal. Not perfection. Not 100%. Not superhuman. Just good enough, most of the time, with repair when needed \ud83c\udfa7 CTA: Listen & Share + Grab the Divorce Conversation Guide If this episode supported you, please:\u2728 Subscribe\u2728 Leave a quick review\u2728 Share it with a friend or teacher who needs these tools   Resources Mentioned- the brain benefits of journaling https:\/\/kindredmind.app\/scientific-research-on-journaling\/ SEO Keywords: supporting kids through divorce, co-parenting tips, emotional safety for kids, how to help kids during divorce, divorce and kids emotions, coping with divorce as a parent, emotional wellness for families       ","author_name":"Emotions With Ease","author_url":"https:\/\/www.sacredgroundcoaching.com\/podcasts\/emotions-with-ease","html":"