{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"#60: The Truth About Connection: Why Success Feels Empty Without It","description":"Ambitious people fall into a trap: You\u2019ve learned from a young age that achievement means love, and so, you chase achievement and other external markers of success only to realize the gnawing void is still there.  Most think their childhood patterns will get dissolved by father time. But the truth is, these patterns adapt to your knowledge, and become masters of disguising themselves.Take, for example, the seductive idea of independence. For ambitious men, independence is really isolation in disguise, which leads to deep loneliness (even if you have an attractive wife, thousands of followers, or are the most popular person in any room).  And no amount of external success can save you from this trap. But connection can.  Connection isn\u2019t natural when you\u2019ve spent your entire life building armor around you. But it is learnable. It is the antidote to loneliness. And it is something that can save a broken marriage.  But first, you have to ask yourself (and be honest): Who knows the real you? The you behind all of your masks?  In today\u2019s show, you\u2019ll discover why connection is the only solution to isolation and loneliness. And how to reconnect with yourself and others. Listen now. Show Highlights Include: Why ambitious people confuse isolation for independence and slowly fall into the abyss of loneliness (0:38)  How building a company, buying a mansion, and dating beautiful women can make you hide from others and even yourself (4:19)  3 things all human secretly crave for and why success, status, and wealth alone can\u2019t fill this void (6:18)  Why childhood patterns don\u2019t disappear as you grow up (and how understanding this can save a marriage) (8:06)  How shutting down negative emotions like shame and sadness also prevent you from feeling excitement and joy (11:08)  The \u201cEmotional Suppression to Addiction\u201d pipeline that\u2019s one of the most common patterns I see in my office (12:48)  How married men who do \u201ceverything right\u201d (but don\u2019t actually connect) drive their wife into someone else\u2019s arms (13:35)  The \u201cSOAR Pillars\u201d secret for tearing down your emotional walls and feeling genuine connection for the first time in your life (15:38)  4 steps to reestablish your self-connection (18:43)  For more about David Tian, go here: https:\/\/www.davidtianphd.com\/about\/  Feeling like success in one area of life has come at the expense of another? Maybe you\u2019ve crushed it in your career, but your relationships feel strained. Or you\u2019ve built the life you thought you wanted, yet there\u2019s still something important missing. I\u2019ve put together a free 3-minute assessment to help you see what\u2019s really holding you back. Answer a few simple questions, and you\u2019ll get instant access to a personalized masterclass that speaks directly to where you are right now. It\u2019s fast. It\u2019s practical. And it could change the way you approach leadership, love, and fulfillment. Take the first step here \u2192 https:\/\/dtphd.com\/quiz   ","author_name":"Beyond Success","author_url":"https:\/\/www.davidtianphd.com\/","html":"