{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"The Post-Divorce Glow-Up: Steps to Emotional Recovery after Abuse","description":"\ud83c\udfa7 Listen to this episode if\u2026 \ud83d\udc94 You\u2019ve left an abusive relationship but still feel stuck, numb, or confused. \ud83e\udde0 You\u2019re trying to understand why you still feel controlled, scared, or exhausted. \ud83d\udcac You want to know what healing actually looks like and how long it takes. \ud83d\udcaa You\u2019re ready to start finding yourself again after years of walking on eggshells. \ud83c\udf38 You want to rebuild your confidence, identity, and hope for the future. \ud83d\udcab You just need to hear that full recovery is possible \u26a0\ufe0f Trigger Warning: This episode discusses family violence, coercive control, and trauma recovery. \ud83d\udccc Disclaimer: This episode is for general information and education only. Please seek your own legal, psychological, or medical support for your specific circumstances. Leaving an abusive relationship doesn\u2019t mean the pain or confusion stops overnight. In this heartfelt episode, Laura and Lyn are joined by clinical psychologist Krazi Kirova, who specialises in trauma recovery and emotional abuse. Together, they explore what happens after you leave  the emotional crash, the exhaustion, and eventually, the glow-up. You\u2019ll learn what the research says about post-separation abuse, why healing takes time, and the eight key stages of recovery every survivor eventually moves through. Krazi shares powerful, evidence-based insights on rebuilding safety, identity, and connection  and why the \u201cpost-divorce glow-up\u201d you see online is about so much more than appearance. If you\u2019re in that stage where you feel broken, tired, and unsure of who you are  this episode is for you. It\u2019s about hope, self-reclamation, and the small steps that slowly lead to peace, power, and joy again. \u23f1\ufe0f Episode Timeline \u2013 The Post-Divorce Glow-Up: Healing After Abuse 00:00 \u2013 Introduction: Leaving abuse and why the pain doesn\u2019t stop overnight 01:00 \u2013 Support reminder: Lifeline, 1800 RESPECT, and why safety comes first 02:00 \u2013 What keeps you stuck after leaving an abusive partner 03:00 \u2013 Why recovery can\u2019t begin until you feel physically and emotionally safe 05:00 \u2013 The psychological \u201churricane\u201d of separation \u2014 and why it gets worse before it gets better 07:00 \u2013 Understanding post-separation abuse and coercive control 09:00 \u2013 How predictability helps survivors regain power and calm 11:00 \u2013 How courts are improving in recognising coercive control and trauma 12:00 \u2013 The physical and emotional depletion from years of abuse 13:00 \u2013 The \u201cpost-divorce glow-up\u201d \u2014 and why your energy eventually returns 17:00 \u2013 How long does it really take to heal after abuse? 18:00 \u2013 What research says about recovery \u2014 it\u2019s not linear 19:00 \u2013 The 8 key tasks for healing and recovery 20:00 \u2013 Step 1: Establishing safety \u2014 physical, emotional, and financial 22:00 \u2013 Step 2: Educating yourself and re-examining the relationship 25:00 \u2013 Step 3: Rebuilding identity \u2014 remembering who you are 29:00 \u2013 Step 4: Rebuilding social connections and support networks 32:00 \u2013 Step 5: Being selective about who you let in \u2014 healthy relationships only 33:00 \u2013 Step 6: Taking time before dating again 35:00 \u2013 Step 7: Embracing freedom, autonomy, and decision-making 38:00 \u2013 Step 8: Accepting recovery as a process \u2014 patience and self-kindness 42:00 \u2013 Courts and trauma-informed change in the family law system 44:00 \u2013 Step 9: Healing mentally and physically \u2014 reconnecting with your body 46:00 \u2013 The power of community, spirituality, and belonging in recovery 47:00 \u2013 Final reflections: \u201cIt\u2019s a journey \u2014 and you are getting somewhere.\u201d Resources Mentioned: \ud83e\udde9 Kirova Psychology \u2013 Personal Resources https:\/\/kirovapsychology.com.au\/personal-resources\/  \ud83d\udcd1 Free Disclosure Checklist https:\/\/www.thedivorcecourse.com.au\/disclosurechecklist \ud83d\udcbb The Divorce Course Free Resources https:\/\/www.thedivorcecourse.com.au Related Episodes: \ud83c\udf99\ufe0f Is It Emotional Abuse? https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/episode\/3Vjl0I9xXUQruoAQKLVh11 Is it emotional abuse?  https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/episode\/2bSCQ3JdcU4xxW7D4LJUxG?si=VV8mR7aYS7uJYstTMYwZvg   Divorcing an abuser https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/episode\/21TpYbC15VJt9lnb82Ub13?si=lonuOpx8Q22ZRrKKbArc0g \ud83c\udf99\ufe0f Mediation or Manipulation? https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/episode\/4P1DjaMtXTq2sbel4qywew  \ud83c\udf99\ufe0f When Mediation Goes Wrong (And What You Can Do Next) https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/episode\/4WQhunLQVtWn02k5FT7Mpv \ud83c\udf99\ufe0f The Narcissist Playbook https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/episode\/00kTon70LllVE97X8zn9vK   \ud83d\udea8 Support Services (Australia): 1800 RESPECT \u2013 Family Violence Support Lifeline 13 11 14 \u2013 Crisis Support Police \u2013 Call 000 if you are in danger \u26a0\ufe0f Trigger Warning: This episode discusses family violence, coercive control, and situations that may feel unsafe. \ud83d\udccc Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances. ","author_name":"The Divorce Course Podcast","author_url":"https:\/\/www.thedivorcecourse.com.au\/podcasts\/the-divorce-course-podcast-2","html":"