{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"337. How To Be Awesome At Being A Wife Who Says Yes","description":"I hesitate to give any awesome tips on marriage or parenting because just when I think I have something fully figured out it flips!  But this one is good I promise.    How To Be Awesome At Being A Wife Who Says Yes    Can I go golfing mid day tomorrow?  Yes Can I go to a movie last minute with the boys tonight? Yes    If it\u2019s not potentially dangerous or disrespectful, my answer is yes!       I even say yes if its irritating\u2026 and I think you should too. Boys night tonight when you weren\u2019t expecting it and you\u2019re tired and you\u2019ll have to do more\u2026 irritating ya\u2026. But thats not a reason to say he can't do it.    It\u2019s just so good for your relationship when you are a yes wife rather than a no wife.    I want you to be happy and do what you want    We want our men to feel like we support what they love. We aren\u2019t bossing them around and shutting down what they really want to do.    Because that\u2019s how we want it to be for us too!  We\u2019re not doing it SO THAT we get it in return, but we will!        Points we talk about!    A \u201cyes\u201d that comes from generosity, not obligation, has power. It communicates confidence and emotional security.   -If we want to say no, ask ourselves why!  May be a sign you need more of something in some area of life.  Make note a bring it up - not heated and not in this moment. Later say something like\u2026 \u201cI\u2019m so happy you had fun. It made me realize I\u2019m not doing enough with my friends or making time for workouts."   -We haven\u2019t always been at this point!! Now my husband is responsible and super respectful and makes good decisions so it makes it easy for me to say yes.  When he wasn\u2019t I couldn\u2019t do this!     -The Psychology behind saying yes You\u2019re showing trust and respect      It\u2019s not about keeping score  By giving this freedom, you are showing emotional generosity  Most people reciprocate from a place of gratitude      You now when you get any YES in life you\u2019re like F ya!!  Let\u2019s goooo  Give them that joy!      Give them a hell yes, not just a yes  And don't give them a lecture then a yes      Some thoughts from experts! Dr. Terri Orbuch & The Power of Allowing Individuality Core idea: Long-term happiness comes from letting each person continue to grow individually. In her 28-year study on marriage, Dr. Orbuch found that happy couples maintain what she calls \u201cself-expansion\u201d... encouraging each other\u2019s separate interests. Saying yes allows your partner to explore and come back to the relationship with new energy, stories, and confidence.  \u201cEncouraging your partner\u2019s personal growth is one of the strongest predictors of long-term happiness.\u201d Dr. Terri Orbuch   Dr. Jordan Peterson & Mutual Responsibility & Trust Core idea: Healthy relationships are based on voluntary cooperation, not control. Peterson often talks about how resentment builds when one partner becomes too controlling. He frames marriage as a partnership of two competent adults who choose each other daily. Saying yes reinforces that mutual trust and equality. Quote to use: \u201cA relationship is a negotiation between two people who are aiming for the best in one another.\u201d  Jordan Peterson     Dr. Gary Chapman & The 5 Love Languages Core idea: Saying yes is a form of acts of service and words of affirmation rolled into one. For many people, feeling trusted and supported is their love language. When you say, \u201cSure, have fun,\u201d you\u2019re affirming love in a way that communicates emotional generosity. Quote to use: \u201cLove is a choice you make every day.\u201d  Gary Chapman   Jay Shetty & The Energy of Giving Core idea: Giving without keeping score creates peace and attraction. In 8 Rules of Love, Shetty teaches that generosity is the most sustainable foundation for partnership. When you say yes because you want to, not because you have to, you change the emotional tone of your marriage. \ud83d\udc49 Quote to use: \u201cLove doesn\u2019t demand, it expands.\u201d  Jay Shetty     CHEERS TO BEING A YES WIFE!!  ","author_name":"How To Be Awesome At Everything Podcast","author_url":"https:\/\/howtobeawesomeateverything.libsyn.com","html":"