{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"When \u201cFine\u201d Keeps Us Stuck: A Reflection on My Dad, Masking, and Adapting ep 558","description":"\u201cI\u2019m Fine\u201d: What My Dad Taught Me About Resisting Help On August 14th, my dad passed away. In the weeks since, I\u2019ve been reflecting on his life, his humor, his resilience \u2014 and his signature phrase: \u201cI\u2019m fine.\u201d He said it when he was hooked up to machines in the hospital. He said it when he was on the roof cleaning gutters, even though his balance was shot. And most of the time, he wasn\u2019t fine at all. In this episode, I share some of the lessons I learned from my dad about adapting \u2014 and about the cost of resisting it. From the adult trike he never would have bought for himself, to the senior living community he resisted but came to love, my dad\u2019s story is a mirror for the ways we all struggle with change, masking, and accepting support. I also talk about my own journey: being diagnosed with ADHD at 19, and more recently, with autism \u2014 a diagnosis that really came into focus during a season of burnout. Like my dad, I\u2019ve had to learn that determination isn\u2019t enough. Saying \u201cI\u2019m fine\u201d isn\u2019t enough. What matters is adapting \u2014 and allowing ourselves to receive help when we need it. If you\u2019ve ever caught yourself saying \u201cI\u2019m fine\u201d when you\u2019re not, this one\u2019s for you.  In This Episode   The phrase my dad used that wasn\u2019t always true \u2014 \u201cI\u2019m fine.\u201d   How his resistance to adapting shaped my understanding of masking.   The trike that gave him joy he wouldn\u2019t have chosen for himself.   Why moving into a senior living community became one of the best decisions he never wanted to make.   What his struggles taught me about ADHD, autism, burnout, and learning to adapt.    Resources &amp;amp; Links   Learn more about ADHD reWired Coaching &amp;amp; Accountability Groups: coachingrewired.com   Join our virtual co-working community: adultstudyhall.com   Support the podcast on Patreon: patreon.com\/adhdrewired   ","author_name":"ADHD reWired","author_url":"http:\/\/www.ADHDreWired.com","html":"<iframe title=\"Libsyn Player\" style=\"border: none\" src=\"\/\/html5-player.libsyn.com\/embed\/episode\/id\/38459105\/height\/90\/theme\/custom\/thumbnail\/yes\/direction\/forward\/render-playlist\/no\/custom-color\/1319d1\/\" height=\"90\" width=\"600\" scrolling=\"no\"  allowfullscreen webkitallowfullscreen mozallowfullscreen oallowfullscreen msallowfullscreen><\/iframe>","thumbnail_url":"https:\/\/assets.libsyn.com\/secure\/content\/193799850"}