{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"267 Rupture without Repair, and the Discomfort of Being Misunderstood","description":" Rupture without Repair, and the Discomfort of Being Misunderstood   In this deeply personal episode, Patricia (she\/her) unpacks the fallout from a neighborhood rupture and the painful loss of community connection. Through the lens of being autistic and AuDHD, she explores rejection sensitivity, communication breakdowns, friendship trauma, and why repair isn\u2019t always possible. She also shares how co-regulation, body doubling, Costco runs, and fierce family love provide grounding. This conversation is raw, tender, and validating for anyone who has struggled with being misunderstood as a neurodivergent person. WHAT YOU\u2019LL HEAR IN THIS EPISODE \u00b7       The neighborhood rupture and how a joke led to exclusion from a community group \u00b7       What happens when rupture and repair aren\u2019t possible in friendships \u00b7       The autistic need for clarity, communication, and closure \u00b7       Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD) and how silence feels like rejection \u00b7       The PDA (persistent drive for autonomy) response to being left out \u00b7       The pain of friendship trauma and feeling misunderstood \u00b7       How autistic people process and loop on unresolved conflict \u00b7       The role of community in belonging and nervous system regulation \u00b7       Why body doubling and co-regulation help autistic\/ADHD brains stay grounded \u00b7       Finding comfort in Costco runs, small joys, and simple routines \u00b7       Permission to need rest, wear earplugs, or retreat from sensory overwhelm \u00b7       Generational differences in friendship and communication between neurodivergent people \u00b7       Practicing adaptability through change (like moving workspaces at home) \u00b7       The bittersweet truth: not all friendships are meant to last \u00b7       Gratitude reframed through an autistic lens\u2014how to find appreciation without bypassing pain SOUND BITES \u201cFor us, it felt like there was no space for human mistakes, no place for rupture and repair.\u201d \u201cThis activated friendship trauma in me, and I\u2019ve noticed my protective armor is up.\u201d \u201cIntellectually, I know this is fine. Emotionally, feeling misunderstood and powerless is really hard.\u201d "You have a right to speak up." "Not all friendships last forever." "Life is messy. Friendships are messy." \u201cBody doubling is such a beautiful way to borrow someone else\u2019s nervous system to regulate.\u201d \u201cSensitivity is nothing to apologize for. It\u2019s how you\u2019re wired. You have the right to take up space.\u201d SENSITIVITY IS NOTHING TO APOLOGIZE FOR; IT\u2019S HOW YOUR BRAIN IS WIRED You are not broken. You were shaped by systems that weren\u2019t built for you. You deserve rest, joy, and support exactly as you are.   TOPICS COVERED (please adjust for addition of introduction) 00:00 Navigating Community Dynamics 08:42 The Impact of Silence and Rejection 17:06 Rupture, Repair, and the Complexity of Relationships 23:52 Finding Joy in Everyday Moments 29:13 Gratitude and Perspective on Life PODCAST HOST Patricia Young (she\/her) was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it\u2019s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile, OCD and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcasts Unapologetically Sensitive and Unapologetically AuDHD to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren\u2019t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you Patricia\u2019s website, podcast episodes and more: www.unapologeticallysensitive.com LINKS    To write a review in itunes: click on this link https:\/\/itunes.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/unapologetically-sensitive\/id1440433481?mt=2 select \u201clisten on Apple Podcasts\u201d chose \u201copen in itunes\u201d choose \u201cratings and reviews\u201d click to rate the number of starts click \u201cwrite a review\u201d Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657\/ Closed\/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/groups\/2099705880047619\/ Instagram-- https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/unapologeticallysensitive\/ Youtube-- https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/channel\/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg\/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@unapologeticallysensitiv Unapologetically AuDHD Podcast-- https:\/\/unapologeticallysensitive.com\/unapologeticallyaudhd\/ e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com   ","author_name":"Unapologetically Sensitive","author_url":"https:\/\/unapologeticallysensitive.com\/unapologetically-sensitive\/","html":"