{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"015. Getting Honest About What Hurts: How CPTSD Shapes This Dynamic","description":" Why is CPTSD so hard to live with? Because it shapes how you see yourself, how you read other people, and how you choose relationships. The hurt is not random. It comes from old patterns that formed when you had no protection, no support, and no space to be fully yourself. Those same patterns show up today in the moments when you feel misunderstood, unseen, or unchosen. This episode invites you to evaluate your past relationships, and even your present ones, from a place of strength rather than self-blame. When you finally understand the dynamics shaped by CPTSD, you can begin building healthy love from clarity instead of pain. Why does complex PTSD hurt so much? How do I comfort someone with CPTSD? HELP WITH HEALING CPTSD Can\u2019t stop fighting in your relationship? \u2192 Follow the Fight Smarter Field Guide \u2014 a self-guided learning experience to understand your conflict patterns and practice responses that lead to repair, not regret. https:\/\/cptsdmedicine.com\/the-fight-smarter-field-guide In a relationship, but wondering if you should leave? \u2192 Begin the Red Flag Learning Path to recognize trauma-driven patterns and rebuild your inner compass toward love that doesn\u2019t hurt. https:\/\/cptsdmedicine.com\/red-flag-checklist Just been broken up with and need answers to feel sane again? \u2192 Explore the \u201cWhy Is This Happening to Me?\u201d Study for clarity, validation, and grounded relief after heartbreak. https:\/\/cptsdmedicine.com\/why-is-this-happening Thinking your career is hurting your love life? \u2192 Start the Overachiever\u2019s Audit Study \u2014 a 10-minute self-reflection to see where achievement has become protection and how it may be blocking intimacy. https:\/\/cptsdmedicine.com\/overachievers-audit Work With Tanner 1:1 - https:\/\/cptsdmedicine.com\/services If this episode resonates and you\u2019re ready to heal your CPTSD at the root, learn more about Happily Ever After. About Dr. Tanner Wallace Dr. Tanner Wallace is a childhood trauma survivor, former university professor, and Level 3 Internal Family Systems Practitioner who specializes in CPTSD Resolution. She founded CPTSD Medicine to offer applied mental health training for high-achieving adults who want a clear, structured path to heal trauma at the root and stop repeating painful relationship patterns. About the Heal First Then Pick Your Life Partner Podcast Heal First Then Pick Your Life Partner is a podcast for look-good-on-paper adults with unresolved CPTSD, anxious attachment, or repeated relationship pain. If you look confident on the outside but feel overwhelmed, confused, or ashamed by the patterns you cannot break, this podcast teaches you why. Each episode breaks down how trauma shapes your emotions, triggers, and relationship choices, and offers practical, research-informed steps to heal at the root. Learn how to stop trauma-driven reactions, understand emotional flashbacks, build secure attachment, create healthier relationships, and finally feel safe inside your own system. Hosted by Dr. Tanner Wallace, PhD and Level 3 Internal Family Systems practitioner, this podcast provides applied mental health training for adults who want clarity, stability, and a structured path to CPTSD Resolution. If you want to heal deeply, choose partners wisely, and build a life that feels secure and aligned, you are in the right place.   ","author_name":"Heal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD","author_url":"https:\/\/cptsdmedicine.com\/","html":"