{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"3 Ways to Validate Your Wife","description":"Has your wife ever said, \u201cYou don\u2019t validate me,\u201d or \u201cStop trying to fix it\u201d? This episode is for the guys who love solutions\u2014but keep getting told they\u2019re not listening. I\u2019ll show you why solution-first often backfires and exactly how to lead with validation so your solutions actually land. Big idea: When she brings a problem with hurt feelings, she needs an emotional landing pad before logistics. Start with validation, add curiosity, and remember imperfect is allowed\u2014then offer a concrete action you\u2019ll take. 00:00 Welcome to Husband Help Haven 00:27 The Fixer Mentality 02:39 Understanding Your Wife\u2019s Feelings 05:57 Example of My Failure to Validate 10:27 The Importance of Emotional Engagement 13:44 Validation First 18:28 Curiosity, Not Judgment 20:44 Imperfect Is Allowed 24:03 Recap and Key Takeaways  What you\u2019ll learn  Why \u201cbeing a fixer\u201d frustrates her (she feels unheard or dismissed) The skill most men skip: say the truth she already knows, in your own words Three cues that change everything:  Validation first Curiosity, not judgment Imperfect is allowed   How to own impact (move from \u201csorry you felt\u2026\u201d \u2192 \u201cI\u2019m sorry I did ___ that led to ___\u201d) Why you should state what you\u2019ll do (don\u2019t make her manage you)   Try these in your next hard talk  Validation: \u201cYou\u2019re right\u2014this is a lot. I left too much on your plate. I\u2019d feel overwhelmed too.\u201d Curiosity: \u201cCan you help me understand which part felt worst today?\u201d \/ \u201cWhat would feeling supported look like right now?\u201d Action (no permission required): \u201cI\u2019m taking A, B, and C off your plate. If you want me to swap anything, tell me.\u201d   One line to remember  \u201cShe still wants to SEE the solution, but she wants to HEAR validation first.\u201d    Resources &amp;amp; next steps   Episode notes, quotes, and quick-reference cues: https:\/\/husbandhelphaven.com\/episode-29\/   Husband Help Group (waitlist): https:\/\/husbandhelphaven.com\/waitlist (A private, pro-marriage, pro-hope community for men navigating separation or working to rebuild.)    Who is this for? Husbands in separation, men feeling stuck under the same roof, and any guy who wants a clear, compassionate way to calm conflict and build connection. If this helped, like the video, subscribe, and share it with a friend who needs it.&amp;nbsp; Much manly love, Stephen | Husband Help Haven #marriage #validation #communication #husband #relationshipadvice #marriageadvice #conflictresolution #emotionalintelligence #separation #HusbandHelpHaven &amp;nbsp; ","author_name":"Husband Help Haven Podcast: Marriage Advice for Men Facing Separation, Affair or Divorce","author_url":"https:\/\/husbandhelphaven.com","html":"<iframe title=\"Libsyn Player\" style=\"border: none\" src=\"\/\/html5-player.libsyn.com\/embed\/episode\/id\/38269550\/height\/90\/theme\/custom\/thumbnail\/yes\/direction\/forward\/render-playlist\/no\/custom-color\/88AA3C\/\" height=\"90\" width=\"600\" scrolling=\"no\"  allowfullscreen webkitallowfullscreen mozallowfullscreen oallowfullscreen msallowfullscreen><\/iframe>","thumbnail_url":"https:\/\/assets.libsyn.com\/secure\/content\/193203130"}