{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"Ep 460 Invisible Distortions: Why We Misunderstand Each Other (and How to Stop) with Erin Pheil and Evan Walton","description":"Invisible Distortions: Why We Misunderstand Each Other (and How to Stop) Have you ever walked away from a conversation thinking, \u201cHow did that go so wrong?\u201d You were clear. They were clear. And yet somehow, you both walked away feeling misunderstood, hurt, or even resentful.   Erin and Evan call these hidden forces \u201cdistortions.\u201d They\u2019re like funhouse mirrors in our relationships\u2014subtle patterns, beliefs, or unspoken feelings that bend what we say and hear. Left unchecked, distortions quietly erode connection, fuel resentment, and create conflict that seems impossible to solve.   In this episode of Richer Soul, we explore how to see distortions, name them, and clear them\u2014so that relationships (at home, in business, and even with money) flow with more peace and ease.   \ud83d\udc49 If you\u2019d like to go deeper into Erin\u2019s personal story and her work on rapid transformation, revisit her earlier episode here: Ep 362: Rapid Transformation \u2013 How to Unlock Your Potential with Erin Pheil   Key Insights from This Conversation:  Distortions Are Invisible Until You Name Them. Much like money scripts, distortions are unconscious patterns\u2014beliefs, judgments, or emotions that warp how we interpret others. Once named, they lose their hidden power. Resentment Traps & Behaffing. Erin and Evan share examples like \u201cresentment traps\u201d (when someone offers something they don\u2019t actually want, creating hidden tension) and \u201cbehaffing\u201d (acting on someone\u2019s behalf without checking if it\u2019s what they want). These patterns often feel kind, but secretly create disconnection. The Link Between Distortions and Money Mindset. Just like growing up with the belief that \u201crich people are evil\u201d can sabotage wealth, unspoken beliefs and judgments in relationships create friction. Both are distortions that quietly drive our choices. Level Two Conversations Build Connection. Most of us stay in surface-level chats. True healing comes when we share our real experience\u2014\u201cI felt sadness when X happened\u201d\u2014without accusation. This opens space for empathy, clarity, and connection. Clearing Distortions is Liberating. The moment distortions are brought into the open, assumptions dissolve and laughter often replaces resentment. As Erin says, \u201cWe get to clear it in real time, and suddenly everything feels lighter.\u201d   Money Learning: Evan grew up with the story that money was hard to earn\u2014yet inside he held a contrarian belief that it had to be easier. This push-and-pull mirrors how distortions show up: subconscious scripts we don\u2019t question, but which silently shape our decisions about money, work, and worth.   Key Takeaway: Distortions thrive in silence. The moment we slow down, notice what we\u2019re truly feeling, and share it without accusation, connection becomes possible again.     About Erin & Evan: Erin Pheil Before entering the world of mindset and transformation, Erin founded and scaled an award-winning web agency for 17 years. In 2018, she launched The MindFix Group, where she has since helped high-performing entrepreneurs and leaders across the world overcome their stuckness, frustrations, relationship challenges, inner limitations, and mental roadblocks. Today, Erin facilitates private coaching and world-class retreats that create profound breakthroughs for her clients. Evan Walton Evan co-founded and scaled an Amazon business in his early 20s before discovering his true passion\u2014helping people heal. He now works with entrepreneurs and their families to release difficult traumas, reconnect with themselves, and rebuild confidence when they don\u2019t know where else to turn. His work focuses on creating wholeness, clarity, and ease in both personal and professional lives.   Links: Social: @evan.l.walton and @erinpheil Facebook: www.facebook.com\/erinpheil Email: evan.l.walton@gmail.com and erin@mindfixgroup.com   Where in your life do you feel unseen or misunderstood? Could a distortion be at play? Have you noticed yourself offering something you don\u2019t actually want to give (a resentment trap)? What would shift if you spoke your experience instead of your judgment?   #RicherSoul #EmotionalHealing #RelationshipWisdom #InnerGrowth #ClearTheDistortions #SelfAwareness #CommunicationSkills #MindsetShift #PersonalGrowthJourney #HealingRelationships   Watch the full episode on YouTube: https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/@richersoul Richer Soul Life Beyond Money. You got rich, now what? Let\u2019s talk about your journey to more a purposeful, intentional, amazing life. Where are you going to go and how are you going to get there? Let\u2019s figure that out together. At the core is the financial well-being to be able to do what you want, when you want, how you want. It\u2019s about personal freedom! Thanks for listening!   Show Sponsor: http:\/\/profitcomesfirst.com\/   Schedule your free no obligation call: https:\/\/bookme.name\/rockyl\/lite\/intro-appointment-15-minutes   If you like the show please leave a review on iTunes: http:\/\/bit.do\/richersoul   https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/richersoul http:\/\/richersoul.com\/ rocky@richersoul.com   Some music provided by Junan from Junan Podcast   Any financial advice is for educational purposes only and you should consult with an expert for your specific needs. ","author_name":"Richer Soul, Living A Life on Purpose!","author_url":"http:\/\/richersoul.com","html":"