{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"159 | Stop Performing Your Life: Unbecoming the Perfect Wife and Mom with Dr. Merry Lin, PhD","description":"So many women know what it feels like to live for other people\u2019s approval. Whether it\u2019s in our marriages, motherhood, friendships, or even our faith communities. We project the \u201cperfect\u201d version of ourselves: kind, put-together, selfless, always smiling\u2026 but most of us are just freaking exhausted. In today\u2019s episode, I sit down with Dr. Merry Lin, clinical psychologist, speaker, and author of The Fully Lived Life and The Great Unbecoming. Dr. Lin shares her personal story of growing up as the only Asian family in her community, and how she tried to become the \u201cwhitest, kindest, most Christian\u201d version of herself just to be accepted. She opens up about what it means to live out of our shadow self\u2014the insecure, performative part of us that craves belonging\u2014and how that can keep us stuck in unhealthy cycles of performance and people-pleasing. Together, we also wrestle with a powerful tension many women feel: believing that living in their flesh is living in their essential, selfish self, and therefore sinful. But our essential self is not selfish. The Bible says we are created in the image of God, and the word for \u201cimage\u201d means essence. That means who we really are\u2014our true, God-breathed self\u2014is a reflection of His glory. Every woman reflects a different aspect of that glory. In today's episode, we talk about: Why so many women feel like they must project a polished version of themselves (and how it\u2019s draining their souls). The difference between living out of the shadow self vs. the essential, God-breathed self. How compassion and grace for ourselves unlocks healing. Why unbecoming the false self is actually the only way to truly become who God made us to be. If you\u2019ve ever felt like you\u2019re performing your life instead of actually living it, this conversation will remind you that freedom begins with unbecoming who you thought you had to be and resting in the truth of who God already says you are. Follow along with Lindsey on IG: @livingeasywithlindsey Follow along with Dr. Merry Lin on IG: @drmerrylin Order REBECOMING today!  ","author_name":"Living Easy with Lindsey","author_url":"https:\/\/sparrowsandlily.com\/","html":"