{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"People Pleasing &amp; ADHD: When &quot;Yes&quot; is a Nervous-System Response and How to Stop with Anita Sandoval, LPC - EP 555","description":"People-pleasing isn\u2019t a personality flaw\u2014often it\u2019s a nervous-system strategy. Licensed Professional Counselor and ADHD-CCSP Anita Sandoval joins Eric to unpack how the fawn response shows up with ADHD, trauma, and RSD; how it differs from masking and conflict avoidance; and what real change looks like. We cover Anita\u2019s \u201cEmpower \u2192 Resilient \u2192 Authentic\u201d model, ADHD-friendly EMDR adaptations, and the messy-but-worth-it work of boundaries (including with narcissistic family dynamics). Resources, Anita\u2019s links, and a quick survey about a potential evening coaching group are in the full notes at ADHDreWired.com. Guest: Anita Sandoval, LPC-S, EMDR-Certified, ADHD-CCSP \u2014 therapist, supervisor, and author of Broken Chains (English &amp;amp; Spanish). Host of Empowering Women in Conversations and creator of Empower Her Pathways. We cover:   People-pleasing as a neuro-adaptive response (fight\/flight\/freeze\/fawn)   People-pleasing vs. conflict avoidance vs. masking   ADHD &amp;amp; RSD: why \u201cneutral\u201d feedback stings and how regulation shifts it   Differentiating from personality disorders (dependent\/BPD)   Hypervigilance, ACEs, and emotional regulation circuits   Boundaries with narcissistic dynamics (including the \u201cvictim narcissist\u201d pattern)   Anita\u2019s staged model (Stages of Change \u00d7 grief work): Unaware \u2192 Aware \u2192 Ready \u2192 Action \u2192 Maintenance \u2192 Integration (Empowered \u2192 Resilient \u2192 Authentic)   Therapies that help ADHD brains: EMDR with resourcing, IFS\/parts work, polyvagal-informed regulation   Eric\u2019s EMDR story: from trigger spirals to co-regulation   Try this: Notice your next automatic \u201cyes.\u201d Ask: Is this aligned with my values, or is my nervous system chasing safety? Then practice one tiny boundary this week and track before\/during\/after. Resources mentioned:   Anita Sandoval \u2014 anitasandoval.com (course: Empower Her Pathways)   Broken Chains (English\/Spanish)   Dr. Ramani\u2019s work on narcissism (Should I Stay or Should I Go?)   Modalities: EMDR, IFS\/Parts, Polyvagal-informed approaches   Coaching &amp;amp; community:   Evening Coaching Group \u2014 interest survey We\u2019re exploring a fall evening section (proposed Wed, Sept 18 \u2022 5pm PT \/ 8pm ET) led by ADHD reWired Coach &amp;amp; LCSW Kristin Marts, at a budget-friendly rate (starting at $999) if we move forward. Deadline to weigh in: Aug 15. Take the short survey at www.coachingrewired.com.&amp;nbsp; Complete the survey to enter to win 6 months free in our Alumni community ($240 value) or 1 year free of Adult Study Hall ($240 value).   Adult Study Hall (ASH) \u2014 virtual co-working &amp;amp; body doubling. Free 1-week trial, then $19.99\/mo or $150\/yr at www.adultstudyhall.com.   Connect with Anita: www.anitasandoval.com&amp;nbsp;| Podcast: Empowering Women in Conversations ","author_name":"ADHD reWired","author_url":"http:\/\/www.ADHDreWired.com","html":"<iframe title=\"Libsyn Player\" style=\"border: none\" src=\"\/\/html5-player.libsyn.com\/embed\/episode\/id\/37741410\/height\/90\/theme\/custom\/thumbnail\/yes\/direction\/forward\/render-playlist\/no\/custom-color\/1319d1\/\" height=\"90\" width=\"600\" scrolling=\"no\"  allowfullscreen webkitallowfullscreen mozallowfullscreen oallowfullscreen msallowfullscreen><\/iframe>","thumbnail_url":"https:\/\/assets.libsyn.com\/secure\/content\/191711900"}