{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"329: Stop Taking Communication Advice from Men","description":"In this fiery and insightful episode, Heather Hansen takes a bold stand against one-size-fits-all communication advice \u2014 especially the kind coming from male experts that simply doesn't work for women. With decades of experience in advocacy, law, and coaching, Heather breaks down why advice from well-meaning male voices like Jefferson Fisher and Vin Gang may actually backfire for women in real-life situations, especially when it comes to being interrupted, advocating for yourself, or commanding authority. She offers a powerful alternative: learn how to advocate the way that actually works for you. With stories from her courtroom days, coaching practice, and research-backed insight, Heather shows women how to stop trying to \u201cman up\u201d their voice and instead lean into proven techniques designed for how women are actually perceived \u2014 and how we naturally communicate. If you\u2019ve ever followed advice that left you feeling ignored, labeled as \u201ctoo much,\u201d or just plain ineffective, this episode is your permission slip to do things differently. In this episode, you\u2019ll learn: Why \u201cgreat advice\u201d often fails women \u2014 and how to know if it\u2019s not for you The difference between communication and advocacy (and why you must master both) What research says about women being interrupted \u2014 and why standard advice can make it worse How women are judged differently for the same behaviors as men \u2014 and what to do about it Why avoiding conflict OR mimicking male assertiveness both backfire The proven tools that help women advocate effectively, without being labeled abrasive or bossy Why Heather\u2019s courtroom experience taught her to prepare men and women differently \u2014 and how you can apply that in everyday life Resources Mentioned: \ud83d\udcda The Elegant Warrior by Heather Hansen\ud83d\udcd6 The Next Conversation by Jefferson Fisher\ud83c\udfa7 Jay Shetty\u2019s podcast interview with Vin Gang\ud83d\udcca The recent study on how women CEOs are labeled Bonus Announcement: \ud83c\udf93 FREE Masterclass: How to Handle Interruptions (and Be Heard) Without Being Dismissed \ud83d\uddd3\ufe0f August 13 at 3 PM ET \u27a1\ufe0f Can\u2019t join live? Sign up to get the replay. \ud83c\udf81 But if you can make it live, there\u2019s a special surprise just for you! \ud83d\udd17 [Register here] In this episode: [00:00] Heather sets the tone: Why she\u2019s tired of advice that doesn\u2019t work for women [01:45] Communication vs. advocacy \u2014 how they\u2019re different and why it matters [03:10] Why following male experts left Heather confused and frustrated [05:00] The two critical questions to ask before following anyone\u2019s advice [05:30] The case of Jefferson Fisher: great communicator, but his advice may not fit [07:50] Why women\u2019s voices and presence are systemically dismissed [10:00] Research reveals the biases women face when speaking up [12:30] Why \u201ctoo much\u201d isn\u2019t always powerful \u2014 and what actually gets results [14:00] How to know your audience (or \u201cjury\u201d) before you speak [15:00] The feminine communication edge \u2014 and how to use it strategically [16:30] Heather\u2019s courtroom wisdom: train men and women differently for better results [17:15] A call to action: Get the tools to speak effectively and get what you want \u201cYou have to speak for your ideas, your potential, and your worth \u2014 because they can\u2019t speak for themselves.\u201d \u2013 Heather Hansen Connect with Heather: Schedule a call with Heather Follow Heather on Instagram Website Watch Episodes on Youtube Heather\u2019s TikTok \u200d heather@elegantwarrior.com   The Elegant Warrior Podcast and content posted by Heather Hansen is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user\u2019s own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.   ","author_name":"The Elegant Warrior with Heather Hansen","author_url":"https:\/\/advocatetowin.com\/","html":"