{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"262 Breaking Down Internalized Ableism","description":" Breaking Down Internalized Ableism  Summary In this conversation, Patricia explores the concept of internalized ableism, particularly among neurodivergent individuals. She discusses how societal stigma and expectations can lead to negative self-perceptions and feelings of inadequacy. Patricia shares personal experiences and insights on how internalized ableism manifests in various aspects of life, including relationships, self-acceptance, and the pressure to conform to neurotypical standards. She emphasizes the importance of unlearning these hurtful beliefs and embracing one's neurodivergent identity with compassion and understanding.   HIGHLIGHTS   \u00b7       Internalized ableism is the unconscious adoption of negative beliefs about oneself due to societal stigma. \u00b7       Neurodivergent individuals often feel pressure to conform to neurotypical standards, which can lead to trauma. \u00b7       Resting is a valid need and should not be seen as a failure. \u00b7       Asking for accommodations is essential for well-being and should not induce guilt. \u00b7       The concept of 'high functioning' can be harmful and does not reflect true capabilities. \u00b7       Time agnosia is a common experience for neurodivergent individuals. \u00b7       Self-compassion is crucial in overcoming internalized ableism. \u00b7       Relationships can be affected by the fear of being a burden. \u00b7       Unlearning internalized ableism involves recognizing and challenging societal expectations. \u00b7       Embracing neurodivergence includes acknowledging strengths and practicing self-acceptance. 115 SPECIFIC POINTS DISCUSSED 1.     How internalized ableism shows up in everyday life o   Masking, pushing through burnout, or feeling "lazy" when you're resting. 2.     Messages we absorbed growing up o   From school, parents, peers, or media about being "too much," "distracted," "weird," or "wrong." 3.     Perfectionism and people-pleasing as survival o   How needing to be \u201cbetter\u201d or \u201ceasy to manage\u201d is often rooted in internalized shame. 4.     The trap of \u201cnot disabled enough\u201d or \u201cfaking it\u201d o   How we invalidate our own struggles because we don't \u201clook\u201d stereotypically disabled. 5.     ADHD, autism, OCD & \u201chigh-functioning\u201d narratives o   The myth of being \u201chigh functioning\u201d and how it reinforces ableist expectations. 6.     Feeling guilt for needing accommodations or rest o   That voice that says \u201cyou\u2019re being difficult\u201d when you ask for what you actually need. 7.     Shame around executive dysfunction o   Struggling to start tasks, follow through, or manage time \u2014 and blaming yourself. 8.     Rejecting your own needs to fit in o   Forcing eye contact, avoiding stimming, hiding rituals, not using noise-canceling headphones in public, etc. 9.     The pressure to be \u201cindependent\u201d all the time o   How internalized capitalism + ableism equates needing support with being a failure. 10.  Comparing yourself to neurotypical peers \u00b7       Especially in productivity, relationships, or emotional regulation. 11.  \u201cIf I can do it sometimes, I should always be able to\u201d myth \u00b7       Inconsistent ability = inconsistent worth? Nope. Talk about spoon theory and fluctuating capacity. 12.  How OCD-specific traits are misunderstood or mocked \u00b7       And how that seeps into how you see yourself (e.g., feeling \u201ccrazy,\u201d \u201cirrational,\u201d or \u201ca burden\u201d). 13.  Internalized ableism in dating & relationships \u00b7       Fear of being too much, too emotional, or too rigid \u2014 and minimizing yourself as a result. 14.  How healing looks like reclaiming your needs unapologetically \u00b7       Self-accommodation, boundaries, rest, and neurodivergent joy as rebellion. 15.  Relearning self-compassion and identity pride \u00b7       Ending with hope: unmasking, connecting with community, and defining success on your own terms.    SOUND BITES \u00b7       "Rest is resistance." \u00b7       "You are not broken." \u00b7       "You deserve rest, joy, and support."    SENSITIVITY IS NOTHING TO APOLOGIZE FOR; IT\u2019S HOW YOUR BRAIN IS WIRED You are not broken. You were shaped by systems that weren\u2019t built for you. You deserve rest, joy, and support exactly as you are.    CHAPTERS (please add time for addition of introduction) 00:00 Understanding Internalized Ableism 02:40 The Impact of Societal Expectations 05:31 Navigating Personal Experiences with Internalized Ableism 08:18 The Struggle for Accommodations 10:55 Executive Dysfunction and Inconsistent Abilities 14:01 The Pressure of Productivity 16:53 Feeling 'Not Enough' in Neurodivergence 19:43 Unlearning Internalized Ableism 22:27 Building Self-Compassion and Acceptance  PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it\u2019s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile, OCD and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren\u2019t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you LINKS Rest Is Resistance: Free yourself from grind culture and reclaim your life by Tricia Hersey. Neurodivergent Online Course-- https:\/\/unapologeticallysensitive.com\/neurodivergent-online-courses\/ Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https:\/\/www.subscribepage.com\/e6z6e6  To write a review in itunes: click on this link https:\/\/itunes.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/unapologetically-sensitive\/id1440433481?mt=2 select \u201clisten on Apple Podcasts\u201d chose \u201copen in itunes\u201d choose \u201cratings and reviews\u201d click to rate the number of starts click \u201cwrite a review\u201d   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657\/ Closed\/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/groups\/2099705880047619\/ Instagram-- https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/unapologeticallysensitive\/ Youtube-- https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/channel\/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg\/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com   ","author_name":"Unapologetically Sensitive","author_url":"https:\/\/unapologeticallysensitive.com\/unapologetically-sensitive\/","html":"