{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"333. How To Be Awesome At Not Having FOMO","description":"How To Be Awesome At Not Having FOMO   This is one huge deep dive into FOMO.   The fear of missing out and why I think it can quietly steal your peace, confidence and joy if you don\u2019t have a plan for how to think about it.    Lots of things I talk about on this podcast, I\u2019m currently also working on becoming awesome at the thing.    This is one of those things that I\u2019ve got down.  I don\u2019t have FOMO ever and I don\u2019t get my feelings hurt if I wasn\u2019t invited somewhere.    Not that either of these things are bad feelings - I don't actually label feelings at all- good or bad.  I think it\u2019s so great if you can just see feelings clearly as they are and not judge yourself for the feelings you have.    When you have feelings of missing out you lose the moment you\u2019re in for the moment you think you\u2019re missing or missed.    I think once we really take time to think about what FOMO is and how it affects us, you just won\u2019t feel them the same way after.      We talk about\u2026  Where FOMO actually comes from (spoiler: it\u2019s not about the event, it\u2019s about the emotion underneath it) How to reframe FOMO into JOMO (the Joy of Missing Out) Strategies to strengthen self-trust so you stop looking outward for validation Why comparison is the thief of joy, and how to stop doing it Good reframes and questions to ask yourself when FOMO hits         Understand the Root of FOMO Mel Robbins says FOMO often comes from self-doubt or feeling like we\u2019re not doing enough. \u201cYou\u2019re not missing out on anything when you\u2019re living in alignment.\u201d FOMO is triggered when we think other people are having more fun, more success, or more freedom than we are, but it\u2019s all perception-based. Ask yourself: Am I craving the experience\u2026 or the feeling I think it will give me?     Shift into JOMO \u2013 the Joy of Missing Out Jay Shetty teaches that peace is found in presence, and JOMO is about intentionally choosing what you say yes and no to. \u201cYou don\u2019t need to do everything. You need to do what matters most to you.\u201d When you choose one thing, you\u2019re saying no to others, that\u2019s not loss, that\u2019s clarity. Practice gratitude and groundedness in the choices you\u2019ve made, don\u2019t look sideways.     Build Certainty Through Identity Tony Robbins says that we suffer when our expectations don\u2019t match our reality. \u201cTrade your expectations for appreciation and your whole life changes.\u201d Instead of feeling left out, feel proud of the decisions you\u2019ve made that align with your values. Anchor into your identity: \u201cI\u2019m someone who values\u2026\u201d and let that lead your yeses and noes.       Comparison Detox: Stop Scrolling, Start Living Curate your inputs, if social media is triggering FOMO, take a pause or unfollow. Mel Robbins: \u201cYou can\u2019t compare your behind-the-scenes to someone else\u2019s highlight reel.\u201d Reconnect with your own life\u2019s magic. The more present you are, the less you\u2019ll care what others are doing.     When FOMO Hits, Try This\u2026 Pause. Name it: \u201cThis is FOMO.\u201d Ask: What am I afraid of missing\u2026 and why does that matter to me? Reframe: \u201cIf I\u2019m not there, it\u2019s because I\u2019m meant to be here.\u201d     CHEERS to planning your days in a way that you don\u2019t have a fear of missing things but this sense of joy and calm knowing that you\u2019ve chosen to do the things that align with what matters to you most.  ","author_name":"How To Be Awesome At Everything Podcast","author_url":"https:\/\/howtobeawesomeateverything.libsyn.com","html":"