{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"Navigating Love &amp; Relationships: How to Define Your Non-Negotiables and Stay Flexible","description":"In this episode, Dr. Lisa and Tony discuss the concept of non-negotiables in relationships, emphasizing their importance in dating and partnerships. They explore personal criteria for finding the right partner, share their own non-negotiables, and highlight the significance of flexibility in relationships. The conversation aims to provide insights and advice for listeners navigating their own dating journeys.  Introduction to the Podcast (00:00:01)&amp;nbsp;Dr. Lisa and Tony introduce themselves and the podcast\u2019s focus on second chances and real love after heartbreak. Defining Non-Negotiables (00:00:40)&amp;nbsp;Discussion on what non-negotiables are, their impact on relationships, and the importance of flexibility. Personal Journey After Divorce (00:01:07)&amp;nbsp;Dr. Lisa and Tony reflect on their own experiences finding love again after divorce. The Role of Criteria in Dating (00:02:00)&amp;nbsp;Exploring the idea of having standards or rules for potential partners and the need for realistic expectations. The Laundry List Trap (00:03:51)&amp;nbsp;Warning against having an overly long, rigid list of partner requirements. Flexibility and Realism in Criteria (00:04:25)&amp;nbsp;Emphasizing the importance of being open-minded to avoid missing out on great partners. Early Relationship Questions (00:04:47)&amp;nbsp;Sharing anecdotes about asking deep questions early in dating, like future goals. Character Traits and Values (00:05:19)&amp;nbsp;Focusing on the importance of values and character over perfection in a partner. Russell Wilson\u2019s Non-Negotiables (00:05:57) Introducing NFL quarterback Russell Wilson\u2019s relationship criteria as inspiration. Dr. Lisa\u2019s Top Five Non-Negotiables (00:10:09) Dr. Lisa shares her five key criteria: vulnerability, spirituality, financial fitness, physical activity, and quality time. Flexibility in Non-Negotiables (00:17:16)&amp;nbsp;The role of flexibility in making relationships work and avoiding unrealistic standards. Tony\u2019s Non-Negotiables (00:20:54) Tony shares his criteria: inner and outer beauty, independence, intelligence, and physical fitness. Learning from Past Relationships (00:26:47)&amp;nbsp;Encouraging listeners to reflect on past relationships to define their own criteria. Self-Improvement and Mutual Standards (00:27:09)&amp;nbsp;Reminding listeners to embody the qualities they seek in a partner. Closing and Community Engagement (00:27:35)&amp;nbsp;Thanking listeners, inviting feedback, and promoting the podcast\u2019s online community.   &amp;nbsp; ","author_name":"Saying Yes Again: Helping midlife singles and couples rewrite their love story.","author_url":"https:\/\/sites.libsyn.com\/576435","html":"<iframe title=\"Libsyn Player\" style=\"border: none\" src=\"\/\/html5-player.libsyn.com\/embed\/episode\/id\/37330845\/height\/90\/theme\/custom\/thumbnail\/yes\/direction\/forward\/render-playlist\/no\/custom-color\/88AA3C\/\" height=\"90\" width=\"600\" scrolling=\"no\"  allowfullscreen webkitallowfullscreen mozallowfullscreen oallowfullscreen msallowfullscreen><\/iframe>","thumbnail_url":"https:\/\/assets.libsyn.com\/secure\/item\/37330845"}