{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"258 Performative Expectations vs. Honoring Your Neurodivergent (AuDHD) Needs","description":" Performative Expectations vs. Honoring Your Neurodivergent (AuDHD) Needs     In this conversation, Patricia discusses the challenges of navigating personal truths, autonomy, and performative expectations, particularly as an AuDHDer. Patricia reflects on her struggles with body image, the importance of self-trust, the need for autonomy (PDA), honoring her needs as a neurodivergent human, and prioritizing her comfort. She also addresses social anxiety, the joy of spontaneity, and the balance between assertiveness and sensitivity in relationships. Ultimately, Patricia emphasizes personal growth and the acceptance of one's unique identity through the planning and execution of her son\u2019s wedding.   HIGHLIGHTS   \u00b7       Navigating personal truths is essential for autonomy, and working with PDA (pervasive or persistent drive for autonomy) \u00b7       Performative expectations can override the needs of the human. \u00b7       Body image issues are apt to come up when asked to wear clothes one doesn\u2019t normally wear. \u00b7       Self-trust is crucial in making personal choices. \u00b7       Finding comfort in clothing is important for self-regulation, and feeling authentic. \u00b7       Fear of overwhelm and dysregulation can be mitigated with preparation. \u00b7       Embracing spontaneity can enhance connections with others. \u00b7       Assertiveness is necessary in family dynamics. \u00b7       Personal growth often comes from challenging experiences. \u00b7       Sensitivity is a strength, not a weakness.   SOUND BITES "This is not about getting married." "I felt so present." "I really wanted to honor the bride." "I was very disheartened." "I fell in love with it."   SENSITIVITY IS NOTHING TO APOLOGIZE FOR; IT\u2019S HOW YOUR BRAIN IS WIRED You have a right to trust that you are exactly where you need to be. There's not anything you need to do. Your value and worth does not come from being productive. You can be stimmy. You can be joyful. You can be quiet.   You can be assertive. You can be moving your body. You can be still. You can want to touch all of the dogs in the world, and all of the horses. You can want to be left alone. You can enjoy being with people not being with people. Every single part of you is okay exactly the way you are.   CHAPTERS   00:00 Navigating Personal Truths and Autonomy 03:01 The Impact of Performative Expectations 05:55 Body Image and Self-Trust 09:11 Finding Comfort in Personal Choices 12:11 Overcoming Social Anxiety and Overstimulation 14:52 Embracing Spontaneity and Connection 18:08 Balancing Assertiveness and Sensitivity 20:46 Reflections on Personal Growth and Relationships   PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it\u2019s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile, OCD and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren\u2019t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you LINKS   Neurodivergent Online Course-- https:\/\/unapologeticallysensitive.com\/neurodivergent-online-courses\/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https:\/\/www.subscribepage.com\/e6z6e6 Sign up for the Newsletter-- https:\/\/www.subscribepage.com\/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https:\/\/itunes.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/unapologetically-sensitive\/id1440433481?mt=2 select \u201clisten on Apple Podcasts\u201d chose \u201copen in itunes\u201d choose \u201cratings and reviews\u201d click to rate the number of starts click \u201cwrite a review\u201d   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657\/ Closed\/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/groups\/2099705880047619\/ Instagram-- https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/unapologeticallysensitive\/ Youtube-- https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/channel\/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg\/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com   ","author_name":"Unapologetically Sensitive","author_url":"https:\/\/unapologeticallysensitive.com\/unapologetically-sensitive\/","html":"