{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"The Emotional Labor Podcast - Mardi Winder-Adams","description":"I\u2019ve been a big fan of Mardi Winder-Adams work for a long while. She speaks and writes the impact of divorce on high achieving women, and how to work through all the challenges that entails.  We had a wonderful conversation. As a divorce coach there\u2019s always some type of challenge, obstacle, or overarching concern about how to move forward through the process of becoming a divorced person. She does see four areas that are among the more common challenges: experiencing that emotional shift from we\u2013 to \u2013me, managing the stress of the entire divorce process. Also, there are myriad financial issues that come up as a divorce is getting underway (it is not un-often that one person knows a heck of a lot more about finances than the other person). And finally, if children are in the mix, she helps parents understand that the children will be OK as long as the parents can show a happy and healthy parting of the ways.  It\u2019s a reality that girls are raised into women to notice everything, to be the caregivers, and the caretakers, to be in tune with what\u2019s happening in the family at all times. When divorce happens, many women seek to control the narrative when it comes to managing their children, and their children\u2019s things, i.e. clothing, personal care, and school supplies\u2026 and will ruminate about the what ifs \u2013what if my child doesn\u2019t have a ruler? What if my child doesn\u2019t have a good costume for the class party? Mardi coaches turning this around, to move the thought needle. And think instead about what is happening rather than fearing what\u2019s possible, or whether the fear is truly a legitimate concern. She encourages a 10 minute a day self-care activity. And I\u2019ll 10 minutes don\u2019t have to be done all at once\u2026 Take a couple of minutes to notice the green trees outside your window; five minutes in your desk chair to focus on a positive mantra or a pleasurable upcoming event can turn the tide from anxiety to calm. Also \u2013 learning how to say no goes a long way on the road to self-care.  Bio: Mardi Winder-Adams is the go-to divorce coach for high-achieving individuals. She is dedicated to supporting people in taking control of their separation and divorce to reduce the emotional and financial costs of the process. Mardi offers over 20 years of experience helping women and men navigate the challenges of high-conflict, complex, and high-asset divorces. Mardi is an ICF and BCC Executive and Leadership Coach, Certified Divorce Transition and High-Conflict Divorce Coach, and Credentialed Distinguished Mediator in Texas.  She founded Positive Communication Systems, LLC, and hosts the podcast \u201cThe D Shift, Redefining Divorce and Beyond\u201d and Real Divorce Talks. Mardi is also a best-selling author, speaker, and trainer. Links:  Website: https:\/\/www.divorcecoach4women.com\/ Podcast: The D Shift: Redefining Divorce and Beyond LinkedIn: https:\/\/www.linkedin.com\/in\/mardiwinderadams\/ Instagram: https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/divorcecoach4women\/ Facebook: https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/Divorcecoach4women Facebook personal: https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/mardi.winderadams ","author_name":"The Emotional Labor Podcast","author_url":"https:\/\/linktr.ee\/drreginaflark","html":"