{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"EP 263: The Truth About Procrastination: What Your Resistance Is Really Telling You with Guest Expert Elyssa Smith","description":"Are you a people pleaser with a high tolerance for handling what life throws at you? Do you pride yourself on your deep empathy for others, often procrastinating on what\u2019s important to you? If perfectionism and procrastination feel like inescapable parts of your life, then life is trying to tell you something.  Procrastination isn\u2019t a flaw. It is a signal that\u2019s urging you to dig deeper into your underlying fears, recognize what\u2019s misaligned, and identify what doesn\u2019t feel safe.  Today on The Bridge to Fulfillment\u24c7, Blake welcomes Elyssa Smith, a trauma-informed life strategist who helps people understand the brain science behind self-sabotage. She\u2019s the founder of Your Best Moment and creator of the Ultimate Self-Regulation Method. Her work empowers women to overcome self-sabotage and trauma and break free from procrastination, people-pleasing, and overwhelm.  In this episode, you\u2019ll learn how trauma from our past influences behaviors like procrastination and perfectionism. You\u2019ll begin to understand the two types of pain, identifying the kind that strengthens versus the kind that injures, and why knowing which is which is critical for growth. You\u2019ll gain a fresh perspective on why you might be feeling stuck and how you can finally break free by addressing what feels unsafe. If you\u2019re a high achiever who often pushes yourself into burnout, these actionable strategies will help you shift from survival mode to a place of thriving.   What You\u2019ll Learn: Identifying when people pleasing is helpful versus harmful (8:11) The build-up of \u2018shoulds\u2019 that keep us stuck (15:03) Pain and our fear of failure (25:32) Big and \u2018Tiny T\u2019 traumas that influence our patterns in life (35:25) Working through procrastination (43:13)   Favorite Quotes: \u201cI think often we've been rewarded for focusing on everyone else, and in some cases, made to believe that it's selfish to take care of yourself.\u201d \u2013Blake \u201cHelping that's harmful is helping that is at your expense. There's something to be said for sacrificing for other people, but if it's a lifestyle, that's where you get into burnout. That's where you get into resentment.\u201d \u2013Elyssa Smith \u201cThe vast majority of our stress, anxiety, and our problems are not circumstantial. It's not the toxic boss or the environment. It's whatever belief systems, patterns, etc, that we are dealing with that are creating that anxiety.\u201d \u2013Blake \u201cWe have this special switch that we can turn on or off that's like, \u2018I will tolerate more than is reasonable for no good reason\u2019. So I had to find that switch, and I had to turn it off and say, No, babe, we don't need to do that.\u201d  \u2013Elyssa Smith \u201cThe path of gentleness is sort of paved with a fear of failure. And the fear of failure is what the pain of strengthening looks like.\u201d  \u2013Elyssa Smith \u201cIf those are your answers, work harder, be better, do more, you know that that is the pain that injures. If the kind of hard work you have to do is face your fears, that's the pain that causes resilience.\u201d  \u2013Elyssa Smith Connect with Elyssa Smith: https:\/\/elyssasmith.com www.facebook.com\/elyssacsmith www.instagram.com\/elyssacsmith www.linkedin.com\/in\/elyssasmith The Stress Less Lounge FB group: https:\/\/elyssasmith.com\/facebook   ---------   Additional Resources: Get clarity on where you are on your journey to career fulfillment, where you\u2019re headed, optional paths to get there, and the right next step to take. Start your complimentary, Personalized Career Fulfillment Plan by going to www.thebridgetofulfillment.com\/pcfp For programs and opportunities to work with Blake, go to www.BlakeSchofield.com ","author_name":"The Bridge to Fulfillment","author_url":"https:\/\/www.thebridgetofulfillment.com","html":"