{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"Ep 145: Indirect Trauma in Law Enforcement Relationships","description":"In this episode, a dual first responder couple shares how indirect trauma, cumulative stress, and critical incidents began impacting their marriage long before they saw the signs. You\u2019ll learn: \u2022 how trauma shows up differently for each partner \u2022 why nervous system overload can mimic \u201cwalking on eggshells\u201d in a relationship \u2022 ways spouses can validate without fixing \u2022 how boundaries prevent emotional spillover \u2022 why culturally competent counseling matters for law enforcement families &amp;nbsp; Hosted by Cyndi Doyle, licensed professional counselor supervisor, retired police spouse, and author of Hold the Line, this podcast supports law enforcement officers, their spouses, and first responder couples who want stronger, healthier relationships. &amp;nbsp; \ud83d\udcd8 Grab Cyndi\u2019s book, Hold the Line, to protect your law enforcement relationship:  https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Hold-Line-Protecting-Enforcement-Relationship-ebook\/dp\/B08TPRTY9G#customerReviews \ud83c\udfa4 Book Cyndi to speak at your department or conference: https:\/\/code4couples.com\/training\/ &amp;nbsp; 00:00 Intro: When direct and vicarious trauma collide 01:40 Meet James &amp;amp; Lisa: A dual first responder couple 04:00 How their careers shaped trauma exposure 06:20 Dispatcher trauma and the unseen emotional load 09:00 The incident that changed everything 12:00 When trauma symptoms surfaced at home 16:00 Asking for help and recognizing the warning signs 21:00 How trauma responses differ in each partner 24:00 Setting boundaries around what to share 28:00 Support without fixing 33:00 Validate, don\u2019t negate 36:00 Watching for seasonal and anniversary triggers 40:00 Rebuilding connection with intentional habits 43:00 How they \u201cdate\u201d each other during busy seasons 47:00 Resources: PCIS, culturally competent counseling 48:30 Final advice for law enforcement spouses ","author_name":"Code4Couples","author_url":"http:\/\/code4couples.libsyn.com\/website","html":"<iframe title=\"Libsyn Player\" style=\"border: none\" src=\"\/\/html5-player.libsyn.com\/embed\/episode\/id\/32795212\/height\/90\/theme\/custom\/thumbnail\/yes\/direction\/forward\/render-playlist\/no\/custom-color\/021d51\/\" height=\"90\" width=\"600\" scrolling=\"no\"  allowfullscreen webkitallowfullscreen mozallowfullscreen oallowfullscreen msallowfullscreen><\/iframe>","thumbnail_url":"https:\/\/assets.libsyn.com\/secure\/content\/177058382"}