{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"164: Rejected by Your Child. With Cathy Himlin","description":"Has your child rejected you? Listen in and learn how to handle it with Cathy Himlin. Click here for the show notes and extra resources. It can be tough when you feel rejected by your child, especially when you are going through a separation. Today's guest, a Marriage and Family Therapist helps us understand why and how to manage these situations. What We Talked About: The complexities of high-conflict divorces and how they impact children The underlying reasons why children may reject a parent Recurring patterns observed in children during custody disputes How attachment-based methods can help repair strained relationships between children and parents Practical advice for parents considering divorce How power struggles within couples can impact parenting The difference between litigation and mediation Things to Remember \u201cParenting is getting into the child's world.\u201d \u201cThe ideal for children from separated homes, to not be pulled or pushed from either home is to have both parents work together and try to have similar items.\u201d \u201cYou can't go into divorce and figure out what you want unless you understand your options.\u201d \u201cTrying to make it work is best, because it may just be relationship ruptures or injuries that never got healed.\u201d \u201cTry to have that lens on what's in the best interest of your child.\u201d \u201cHave some respite care. Take time in between having children to focus on the marriage.\u201d \u201cControlling usually means anxiety.\u201d \u201cThere's no book for each child. Every child is different and we don't know what they're going to turn out to be.\u201d \u201cAll the parenting tools and techniques out there are just tools. It's the relationship that matters.\u201d \u201cThe Family Court system needs to shift focus away from litigation and toward the children and their developmental, psychological, and emotional needs.\u201d - Cathy Himlin   Click here for the show notes and extra resources. ","author_name":"The Art of Parenting","author_url":"http:\/\/the-art-of-parenting.libsyn.com\/website","html":"