{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"Executive function: Managing frustration","description":"Success in life \u2014 that looks different for everyone. But skills like persistence, managing frustration and emotional regulation tend to scaffold that success, no matter what the end result looks like. These skills are all part of what scientists call executive function, something we\u2019re focusing on this season. We like to talk about executive function, because young children have lots of chances to practice these skills! In this episode, we look at how to build frustration tolerance. One of the best ways to do that is to play games \u2014 games where your child occasionally loses! Joining My New Life Host Jessica Rolph is Licensed Clinical Social Worker and founder of Starr Therapy, Talia Filippelli. She is a Genius of Play ambassador and has contributed to the Emotional Wellness Playbook.   Takeaways: Our brains develop back to front over our lifespan, and the prefrontal cortex, which is responsible for executive function, isn\u2019t fully developed until age 30. So adjust your expectations accordingly! Play is a great place to start building these skills. Coach your child through losing a game, rather than avoiding your child\u2019s unhappiness at all costs. Explaining that every game has a loser, can help develop appropriate expectations. Talia starts games with her child by explaining: \u201cI can\u2019t tell you who\u2019s going to win. I can\u2019t predict the future. We don\u2019t know how this is going to go.\u201d If your child\u2019s frustration is mounting (particularly if siblings are involved) encourage them to take a pause and to recognize the signals in their body: \u201cI can see you\u2019re getting frustrated. And I can tell because I see you\u2019re moving all your pieces around...\u201d Then validate their feelings and encourage them to put their feelings to words: \u201cTell me about what\u2019s making you feel frustrated about this game.\u201d If children don\u2019t have the language to express what they\u2019re feeling, they will often resort to behaviors, some of them unwelcome. The Lovevery wooden emotion dolls can help with emotional coaching. Ask your child where they feel the frustration in their body and point it out on the figure. With children who prefer tasks and games that are easy for them, Talia likes to introduce the word \u201cchallenge\u201d. \u201cYou\u2019re so good at this game, why not go for something that\u2019s going to be a little harder and see how you do? Challenges can be fun!\u201d    Mentioned in this episode: Brought to you by Lovevery.com  Find Talia Filippelli at Starr Therapy Receive weekly emails about your child\u2019s development, and stay in the know about new play essentials, promos, and more by signing up at Lovevery.com Follow Lovevery and Jessica Rolph on Instagram   ","author_name":"My New Life","author_url":"https:\/\/lovevery.com\/","html":"