{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"Episode 166 :: Dr. Clarence Shuler :: Stories of Finding Hope in Dark Places and Cross-Cultural Relationships that Can Heal","description":" Dr. Clarence Shuler is the President and CEO of his nonprofit BLR- which stands for Building Lasting Relationships. Their mission is to equip others for discipleship in various venues. He and his wife both speak and write about marriage, but also dealing with infidelity, and divorce, but they especially love to minister to singles in the church. Whatever it looks like, the Shulers are committed to \u201cloving people with God\u2019s love with no agenda and see what happens.\u201d During our conversation today, Dr. Shuler shared his story of coming to Christ through a relationship that would impact his life in many ways, through a young guy by the name of Gary Chapman. Yup, the Love Languages guy. I share that because their relationship gave birth to 50+ years of friendship and an opportunity to share how crossing those racial lines in the 1960s taught them both and continues to guide them in helping others learn how to embrace cross-cultural friendships today. Dr. Shuler himself does quite a bit of diversity training for companies, and for churches, and brings such gracious honesty to the table about what it has been like for him as a Black man in predominately white spaces. His most recent book is a really powerful and raw look into his journey with depression and a sense of hopelessness. The book is called Finding Hope in Dark Places: Facing Loneliness, Depression, and Anxiety with the Power of Grace. He coauthored it with his therapist, Dr. Monique Smith Gadson, otherwise known as Dr. Mo. Their book is unique in that it gives an honest narrative of Clarence\u2019s personal experiences as he walked out the darkest place of his life, but also shows his relationship with his counselor and how she was able to help him in that season. It is full of spiritual and mental health wisdom, it does not end tied in a bow, but it is overflowing with hope. Dr. Shuler hopes that sharing his journey will empower anyone, but especially Black men, to embrace vulnerability and find God\u2019s power and healing in weakness. I also want to echo this powerful reminder Dr. Shuler gives in this episode: Being in a dark place is not a sin. It is a place for the Lord to reveal Himself in a whole new way. We see throughout scripture about the Lord shepherding us in dark places, and in this world, we will know and have trouble, but we will never be alone and He will help us to find our hearts again there. He is not finished with you, friend. You matter and your story matters.   Connecting with Dr. Clarence Shuler: Books Facebook Website   Episode Sponsor: Tony Crabtree of Crabtree Homes with Exit Realty Facebook Instagram  Tik Tok  Website YouTube   Please consider joining our Patreon community. If you have enjoyed what you have heard on the podcast today or from other episodes, we would so appreciate your support to keep the Simply Stories Podcast going. You can sign up for as little as $3 a month and each tier offers gifts that I hope will bless you in return. If you feel you cannot financially commit at this time, would you please consider leaving us a star rating and\/or review on Apple Podcasts? My family and I are so grateful for each of you and how you are part of our story.  Scripture References: Matthew 28:19-20- Making disciples  Genesis 1:26-28 Colossians 2:10- You are complete in Christ  Genesis 3- Men\u2019s curse\/purpose from the Garden  John 14:27- The world gives peace that doesn\u2019t satisfy  Isaiah 45:3- \u201cI will give you hidden treasures, riches stored in secret places, so that you may know that I am the LORD, the God of Israel, who summons you by name.\u201d Isaiah 43-46 2 Corinthians 1-4 Psalm 63, Psalm 57, Psalm 142-David was in a dark place hiding in caves 1 Samuel 24- When David didn\u2019t kill Saul  Revelations 3:7-8-I can shut a door no one can open and open doors no one can shut Acts 2- the tongues of fire and each in their own language understanding one another Genesis 11:1-9-Tower of Babel John 13:35- They will know Me by your love 1 Chronicles 12:32- Men and women of Issacar and know what time it is  2 Corinthians 1:9- Indeed we felt within ourselves we would die\u2026 but we believe in the God who raises the dead James 1:2-4- Suffering isn\u2019t punishment  John 16:33- In this world you will have trouble  1 Peter1:6-7 , Zechariah 13:9-  you are going to have many trials, the fire will refine you Romans 5:3-5- Suffering produces character, which produces\u2026 Philippians 1:6- The Lord isn\u2019t finished with you Revelation 21- This isn\u2019t how the story ends  2 Corinthians 1:10- On Him we have set our hope Colossians 3:23-24- We do not find our significance in men but in the Lord  Hebrews 13:5- We\u2019re never alone  Lamentations 3:19-25 Psalm 23 Psalm 27:13-14-What would have become of me had I not believed I would see the goodnes of the Lord in the land of the living   References: Brandi Wilson\u2019s episode where she shares about her divorce Brown v. Board Desegregation in the South was still SLOW.  Gary Chapman Black Panther Party KKK Parades Finding Hope in Dark Places  Dr. Mo- aka Dr. Monique Smith Gadson No More Faking Fine: Ending the Pretending by Esther Fleece Gary and Clarence sharing about their relationship The book they wrote: Life Changing Cross Cultural Relationships: How You Can Help Heal Racial Divides, One Relationship At A Time Stephen Kendrick Charles Stanley Hymns about victory from white protestant churches Songs from the Black church about suffering, survival and lament.  The #1 group battling depression in America is Black men Research shows that when people are able to talk about suicidal ideation, they are less likely to follow through with it.  Statistics show that in the coming years, the vast majority of America will be brown (Michelle Ami Reyes speaks on this as well on our podcast and in her work) Apartheid ended, what happened?   Connecting with Emily and Simply Stories Podcast: Instagram (Em life \/\/ Podcast Life) Facebook Twitter Blog  ","author_name":"Simply Stories Podcast","author_url":"http:\/\/simplystories.libsyn.com\/website","html":"