{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"When parenting feels unequal","description":"Our guest today is a mother of four children, ages 5 to 17. She knows well how the demands of parenting can run you into the ground. She made the choice to step off the \u201cstruggle bus of overwhelm\u201d \u2014 as she calls it \u2014 but it was a move that took time, and conscious effort. The secret? Establishing clear boundaries. And choosing not to identify with the \u201cmother as martyr\u201d role. So many of us look for our partners to validate how hard we are working, before we give ourselves permission to delegate and take a break. Or hold onto resentment because we feel we are shouldering more than our fair share of the parenting burden.  In this episode, Julie Tenner gives us permission to ask: What do I need to show up as the best version of myself in this family? She is an Australian-based relationship expert who shares her wisdom as co-host of the podcast Nourishing the Mother. You can also find her at julietenner.love. Takeaways: If you find yourself resenting the people you love, it\u2019s a sign you need to re-enforce your boundaries. Score-keeping is something we slip into when we\u2019re feeling under-valued. Time to have a conversation with your partner about what you need out of each of your roles. This conversation around roles is constantly shifting. Revisit the agreements you make regularly because our needs as adults shift with the changing children around us. Julie likes to think about it as tending to the you, to the me, to the us and to the family inc. Julie talked about setting limits around breastfeeding and the inevitable resistance that a mother will come up against. Responding to your baby\u2019s cries from a loving place, firm in your boundaries, can sound like: \u201cYeah, it\u2019s really hard for you. I know you really want to have a feed, but I can\u2019t give that to you right now, but I love you and I\u2019m here.\u201d Julie is a big fan of delegating. She reminds us that when delegating, we need to let go of how the task is executed. It\u2019s not going to look exactly like it would have, if you had done it. But we can\u2019t do this work on our own, so time to lean into the team!   Mentioned in this episode: Brought to you by Lovevery.com  Find Julie Tenner at julietenner.love Receive weekly emails about your child\u2019s development, and stay in the know about new play essentials, promos, and more by signing up at Lovevery.com Follow Lovevery and Jessica Rolph on Instagram ","author_name":"My New Life","author_url":"https:\/\/lovevery.com\/","html":"