{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"Anger - Recovered 465","description":"As a way to introduce the recovery topic of Anger, let’s see what our listeners think.  I asked our listeners:\r\nWhen you were new, with what\/who were you most angry with?\r\nSome of the responses we received included:\r\nhttps:\/\/www.surveymonkey.com\/analyze\/JQWCt2t_2BgbS8n_2Bre9RGhDIxy3nFgJeTitshdHJljIxw_3D\r\n \r\nAnger can be labeled anger, mad, cranky, frustrated, irritated, irate, agitated, seething, \r\nand many more. Many alcoholics\/addicts and their family members are surprised that to find \r\nthat the newly recovering person continues to experience a lot of anger. There are many \r\nreasons why a recovering person would continue to feel angry once they have quit \r\ndrinking\/using. \r\n \r\nLet’s start at the beginning of recovery.  Initially, detox may have something to do with it. \r\nThoughts on anger at the beginning of recovery and the physical withdrawal from substance and the effect on mood.\r\n \r\nSwetha, Many alcoholics\/addicts and their family members are surprised that to find \r\nthat the newly recovering person continues to experience a lot of anger.  What has been your experience your observations within the al-anon community?\r\n \r\nSometimes the newly recovering person is still angry about how they came to be in \r\nrecovery. They may be angry at law enforcement, the judge, the boss, the wife, the \r\nfamily in general, or society for not condoning active addiction.   What has been your experience in regards to those closest to you in early recovery?\r\n \r\nSwetha, what are the common expressions of anger for the new al-anon?\r\n \r\nThe newly recovering person, still not very adept at processing feelings, may project blame and \r\nresponsibility for their feelings onto others. Although they may be angry with themselves, the family may still be getting the brunt of it.\r\n \r\nThe family members of alcoholics\/addicts also have anger. Instead of the addict being \r\ngrateful for family members getting them into treatment and saving his\/her life, the addict \r\nis angry at them. They cannot understand this because they remind the addict that is, and \r\nhas been, the family that has been holding down the fort, making all the payments, taking \r\ncare of the kids, the bills, the house, etc. The family member has been taking care of \r\neverything and the addict is mad at them! \r\n \r\nThe addict does not understand why the family member is not giving him\/her credit for \r\nhis sacrifice and understanding how difficult this has all been. The addict is angry that \r\nwhen they do make efforts to do the things that family members have been asking them \r\nto do for a long time, that the family member either does not notice or that that family \r\nmember just expects it. From the family member’s perspective, the fact that the addict \r\nwants a reward for doing what everyone else is expected to do, is inconceivable. Neither \r\nunderstands the other’s frame of reference. \r\n \r\nRyan Interview use the itunes player\r\n \r\nBut we at Recovered are all about the solution.  What are some of the tools of recovery that you use?\r\nWhat steps?\r\nWhat slogans?\r\nWhat prayers?\r\nWhat about sponsors?\r\nWhat about sponsees?\r\nWhat about service work?\r\nWhat about your higher power?\r\n \r\nwhat our book says\r\nPage 66:    open\r\n  ...If we were to live, we had to be free of anger. The grouch and the brainstorm were not for us. They may be the dubious luxury of normal men, but for alcoholics these things are poison. We turned back to the list, for it held the key to the future. We were prepared to look at it from an entirely different angle. We began to see that the world and its people really dominated us. In that state, the wrong-doing of others, fancied or real, had power to...\r\n \r\nPage 88:    open\r\n  ...running the show, humbly saying to ourselves many times each day "Thy will be done." We are then in much less danger of excitement, fear, anger, worry, self-pity, or foolish decisions. We become much more efficient. We do not tire so easily, for we are not burning up energy foolishly as we did when we were trying to arrange life to suit ourselves. It works - it really does. We alcoholics are undisciplined. So we let God discipline us in the simple...\r\n \r\nPage 108:    open\r\n  ...Try not to condemn your alcoholic husband no matter what he says or does. He is just another very sick, unreasonable person. Treat him, when you can, as though he had pneumonia. When he angers you, remember that he is very ill. There is an important exception to the foregoing. We realize some men are thoroughly bad-intentioned, that no amount of patience will make any difference. An alcoholic of this temperament may be quick to use this chapter as...\r\n \r\nPage 37:    open\r\n  ...In some circumstances we have gone out deliberately to get drunk, feeling ourselves justified by nervousness, anger, worry, depression, jealousy or the like. But even in this type of beginning we are obliged to admit that our justification for a spree was insanely insufficient in the light of what always happened. We now see that when we began to drink deliberately, instead of casually, there was little serious or effective thought during the period...\r\n \r\nPage 135:    open\r\n  ...but frankly said that he was not ready to stop. His wife is one of those persons who really feels there is something rather sinful about these commodities, so she nagged, and her intolerance finally threw him into a fit of anger. He got drunk. Of course our friend was wrong - dead wrong. He had to painfully admit that and mend his spiritual fences. Though he is now a most effective member of Alcoholics Anonymous, he still smokes and drinks coffee,...\r\n\r\nFinal Thoughts\r\n \r\nhttp:\/\/anonpress.org\/bb\/\r\nhttp:\/\/aa.org\/twelveandtwelve\/en_tableofcnt.cfm\r\n \r\nhttp:\/\/www.hazelden.org\/web\/public\/thought.view?catId=1901\r\n ","author_name":"Recovered Podcast","author_url":"http:\/\/recoveredcast.com","html":"