{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"[BONUS] #167: POV - Your Relationship to Goals is Toxic AF","description":"\u26a0\ufe0f There is (non-descriptive\/non-detailed) talk about child abuse in this episode. \u26a0\ufe0f Hailey After-Hours Strikes again. This time, we're talking about toxic relationships to goals and goal achievement and their mirror to our experience as children to goals and the authority figures in our lives.  Some of y\u2019all make your goals \u201chelp\u201d you the way it was believed that beating and berating kids \u201chelped\u201d with their behavior and good grades. Ie; \u201cthreat of violence for compliance\u201d vs \u201cspace for learning & skill mastery.\u201d Violence & Compliance: It gets them to do what you want them to do at this moment BUT only if they are already capable of demonstrating that skill. If they don\u2019t have the tools yet or if something is stopping them from using those tools you will get an even worse negative result. Learning & Mastery: The task and skill demonstration needs to be explored so they actually master the skills (which means examination, explanation and trial and error).  Take a few minutes to bring awareness of your relationship to yourself + goal setting\/achievement and how it mimics your relationship to authority figures +  goal achievement growing up.  Any room for switching up that narrative?  \u2014   Sign up for 30 Days of Audio-Based Coaching For 30 days you\u2019ll have access to Hailey inside a private Slack channel. There you can converse via audio and text message as often as you\u2019d like - troubleshoot business problems, instill new habits, become more comfortable in a new role, find breakthroughs where you\u2019re stuck and SO MUCH MORE. \u2060 Sign up takes 60 seconds. No sales call, no application form. Just emotionally intelligent strategic help when you need it. Visit oyfn.co\/audio to start today.\u2060 ","author_name":"One Year From Now","author_url":"https:\/\/www.oyfn.co\/podcast","html":"