{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"Why Men Don\u2019t Stay in Therapy","description":"Why Men Don\u2019t Stay in Therapy Curt and Katie chat about men\u2019s mental health. We look at why men typically go to therapy, their experiences while in therapy, what therapists get wrong when working with men, and how therapists better support the needs of men seeking mental health treatment.     Transcripts for this episode will be available at mtsgpodcast.com! In this podcast episode we talk about men seeking therapy For Men\u2019s Health Awareness month, we want to explore men seeking mental health services. Why do men typically go to therapy? Others telling men to go to therapy Career or relationship issues Depression, which looks like irritability and hostility (externalized behaviors) What is the experience of men in therapy? \u201cSome of this research [on men accessing mental healthcare] shows that while men are increasing in the numbers presenting for mental health treatment, they tend to drop out earlier than women and they tend to drop out at a lot faster rate than women. So that to me says that we as a field are doing something wrong, that we are not able to meet the needs of men. All of that great advice out of \u2018hey, go and seek mental health treatment,\u2019 is falling on people who are trying it out and finding bad experiences with it. \u201c\u2013 Curt Widhalm, LMFT Therapy seems to try to get men to emote like women Invalidating masculine presentations and behaviors Equating masculinity with toxic masculinity Not feeling safe to express emotions beyond confidence, neutrality, or anger How can therapists better serve men seeking therapy? Understanding and honoring a range of masculinities (even within the same client) Helping men to broaden their range of emotional expression Problem-solving, solution-focused can be helpful for men who want to have a clearly defined goal to work toward Collaboratively creating treatment goals Identity work that supports self-definition of masculinity What can therapists get wrong when working with men in therapy? \u201cThere is such a broad array of understandings at this point of what masculinity and what \u2018real men do\u2019 that I think we need to be aware that whether it's traditional gender roles, or more current\u2026 there's some need for an understanding of where your client sits.\u201d \u2013 Katie Vernoy, LMFT Framing masculinity and toxic masculinity solely as \u201cbad\u201d Not digging more deeply into individual development around masculinity Taking offense at their client\u2019s gender identity or ignoring their own bias around \u201ctraditional gender roles\u201d How therapists characterize men\u2019s presenting problems (assigning blame, like depression being seen as anger or hostility, men being described as violent rather than traumatized) Our Generous Sponsor for this episode of the Modern Therapist\u2019s Survival Guide: Thrizer Thrizer is a new modern billing platform for therapists that was built on the belief that therapy should be accessible AND clinicians should earn what they are worth. Their platform automatically gets clients reimbursed by their insurance after every session. Just by billing your clients through Thrizer, you can potentially save them hundreds every month, with no extra work on your end. Every time you bill a client through Thrizer, an insurance claim is automatically generated and sent directly to the client's insurance. From there, Thrizer provides concierge support to ensure clients get their reimbursement quickly, directly into their bank account. By eliminating reimbursement by check, confusion around benefits, and obscurity with reimbursement status, they allow your clients to focus on what actually matters rather than worrying about their money. It is very quick to get set up and it works great in completement with EHR systems. Their team is super helpful and responsive, and the founder is actually a long-time therapy client who grew frustrated with his reimbursement times The best part is you don't need to give up your rate. They charge a standard 3% payment processing fee! Thrizer lets you become more accessible while remaining in complete control of your practice. A better experience for your clients during therapy means higher retention. Money won't be the reason they quit on therapy. Sign up using bit.ly\/moderntherapists if you want to test Thrizer completely risk free! Sign up for Thrizer with code 'moderntherapists' for 1 month of no credit card fees or payment processing fees! That\u2019s right - you will get one month of no payment processing fees, meaning you earn 100% of your cash rate during that time. Resources for Modern Therapists mentioned in this Podcast Episode: We\u2019ve pulled together resources mentioned in this episode and put together some handy-dandy links. Please note that some of the links below may be affiliate links, so if you purchase after clicking below, we may get a little bit of cash in our pockets. We thank you in advance! Men\u2019s mental health: Spaces and places that work for men Why it\u2019s time to focus on masculinity in mental health training and clinical practice Men\u2019s Dropout From Mental Health Services: Results From a Survey of Australian Men Across the Life Span Improving Mental Health Service Utilization Among Men: A Systematic Review and Synthesis of Behavior Change Techniques Within Interventions Targeting Help-Seeking Relevant Episodes of MTSG Podcast: On the APA Guidelines for Boys and Men Antiracist Practices in the Room: An interview with Dr. Allen Lipscomb Therapy for Executives and Emerging Leaders What to Know When Providing Therapy for Elite Athletes Speaking up for Mental Health Awareness: An interview with Metta World Peace When is it Discrimination?   Who we are: Curt Widhalm, LMFT Curt Widhalm is in private practice in the Los Angeles area. He is the cofounder of the Therapy Reimagined conference, an Adjunct Professor at Pepperdine University and CSUN, a former Subject Matter Expert for the California Board of Behavioral Sciences, former CFO of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, and a loving husband and father. He is 1\/2 great person, 1\/2 provocateur, and 1\/2 geek, in that order. He dabbles in the dark art of making "dad jokes" and usually has a half-empty cup of coffee somewhere nearby. Learn more at: www.curtwidhalm.com Katie Vernoy, LMFT Katie Vernoy is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, coach, and consultant supporting leaders, visionaries, executives, and helping professionals to create sustainable careers. Katie, with Curt, has developed workshops and a conference, Therapy Reimagined, to support therapists navigating through the modern challenges of this profession. Katie is also a former President of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists. In her spare time, Katie is secretly siphoning off Curt's youthful energy, so that she can take over the world. Learn more at: www.katievernoy.com A Quick Note: Our opinions are our own. We are only speaking for ourselves \u2013 except when we speak for each other, or over each other. We\u2019re working on it. Our guests are also only speaking for themselves and have their own opinions. We aren\u2019t trying to take their voice, and no one speaks for us either. Mostly because they don\u2019t want to, but hey. Stay in Touch with Curt, Katie, and the whole Therapy Reimagined #TherapyMovement: Patreon Buy Me A Coffee Podcast Homepage Therapy Reimagined Homepage Facebook Twitter Instagram YouTube   Consultation services with Curt Widhalm or Katie Vernoy: The Fifty-Minute Hour Connect with the Modern Therapist Community: Our Facebook Group \u2013 The Modern Therapists Group Modern Therapist\u2019s Survival Guide Creative Credits: Voice Over by DW McCann https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/McCannDW\/ Music by Crystal Grooms Mangano https:\/\/groomsymusic.com\/ ","author_name":"The Modern Therapist's Survival Guide with Curt Widhalm and Katie Vernoy","author_url":"https:\/\/therapyreimagined.com\/podcast\/","html":"