{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"TNMU #219: Advice For the Co-Parenting Dad with Amy Ambrozich","description":"Parenting and Stepfamily coach and expert, Amy Ambrozich, rejoins the show to talk about the challenges dads face in a co-parenting situation. From role disorientation to grieving the loss of what was to navigating a brand new environment, Amy gets at that struggles men and dads face and offers advice on what you can do. Whether this is your situation, or your buddy\u2019s situation, or you just want to learn, there is something here for you.   Save Our Sanity Group: https:\/\/bit.ly\/dtplinks Website: https:\/\/www.daretoparent.com Email: amy@daretoparent.com    Expanded Notes: Amy\u2019s starting point for all parenting work: Family Foundation: Vision, Values, and Goals When Co-Parenting, consistency across the homes is best for kids The biggest challenge that dads in co-parenting situations face is knowing their role Men are often not allowed or encouraged to process feelings, especially grief Generally it takes 5-7 years for a blended family to feel like a family unit, and many couples don\u2019t make it that long because of how hard it is Discipline (and one\u2019s parenting style) is one of the key issues to be addressed in a blended family Transition from friendly adult in the house, to support partner, to taking more active role The age of the child matters Navigating the disorienting period of \u201cwhat is my role?\u201d Talk with your wife about what you\u2019re experiencing; be vulnerable Find something to do with the kids one to one Be supportive when kids are discussing their other parents (including grief from a deceased parent) Ease your way in and be open to the tension and the negotiating Realize that first born boys may feel like they\u2019re role is being replaced by you Assume a posture of listening and a curiosity mindset Dad, you go first, model what you want What parents wished they had recognized earlier: We don\u2019t have the skills needed to be a parents (we have work to do) We need to put our partnership first We should have talked about our goals first We should have given ourself permission to not know and ask for help Resources: Ron Deal, step-family author ","author_name":"The Next Man Up | Equipping Fathers | Raising Men","author_url":"http:\/\/thenextmanup.com","html":"