{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"TNMU #217: Parenting When Your Marriage Sucks","description":"Parenting well is a big job. It\u2019s made even harder when your marriage isn\u2019t in a good place. What do you do if you find yourself as a dad in a marriage that sucks? How do you stay strong as a dad and deal with the difficulty of a strained relationship? That\u2019s what Mark and John get into with this episode.   Expanded Notes: Suggestions from a professional counselor Order \u2014 be clear on the roles of the family; help order the chaos Love \u2014 maintain connection; don\u2019t abuse the connection Value \u2014 ensure your kids\u2019 sense of worth and value; let them have their activities Hope \u2014 have something to look forward to; keep your word If there\u2019s nothing to build on, then you won\u2019t move forward Return to relationship fundamentals From Dr. Curt Thompson\u2019s work We all desire to be Seen, Safe and feel Secure You must do the work on yourself first and maintain your connection with your kids Dr. John Gottman\u2019s work Parents must become emotion coaches Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child: The Heart of Parenting Action steps: Fight for your marriage and for your family Continue to engage in your role as a father ","author_name":"The Next Man Up | Equipping Fathers | Raising Men","author_url":"http:\/\/thenextmanup.com","html":"