{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"TYE 129: Stop people pleasing and start being selfish with Nancy Levin","description":"When Nancy Levin\u2019s personal and professional life blew up, she learned the importance of boundaries, selfishness, self care and self love. For over a decade, she was a professional standout working for a major book publisher, Hay House Publishing (founded by Louise Hay). But years of people pleasing, selflessness and suppressing fear and unhappiness at home culminated in divorce, discovery of her affair and the end of her dream career.    She is now a Master Coach, host of the podcast \u201cYour Permission Prescription\u201d and bestselling author of several self-worth, personal development and relationship books, including Setting Boundaries Will Set You Free, Permission to Put Yourself First and Jump \u2026 And Your Life Will Appear. She is the Founder of Levin Life Coach Academy, offering in-depth coaching, training and certification programs designed to support students to make themselves a priority by setting boundaries that stick. Nancy Levin is on The YES Effect show to talk about how people can strengthen their relationships and their own self by finally putting themselves first.    In this episode, you\u2019ll learn: Why so many people think boundaries and selfishness are bad things Why projecting the image of \u201cperfection\u201d is so harmful  Why Nancy believes the \u201crocking of her foundation\u201d was the best thing to have happened to her Why so many people wait until it\u2019s too late to make a life-altering change Why we shouldn\u2019t aim for a relationship that\u2019s in \u201cperfect harmony\u201d Why boundaries are actually much more freeing rather than restrictive The reason people (especially women) say yes to things we should say no to How to avoid immediately saying \u201cyes\u201d in order to people please Why being \u201cselfish\u201d can be good and healthy for you How you can confidently put your needs first using one small step next time someone asks you what to have for dinner How Nancy eventually became comfortable telling her affair story Quotables: \u201cWe have this idea that the goal of a relationship is harmony at all costs. I\u2019m here to tell you that harmony at all costs comes at a high cost.\u201d   \u201cThere\u2019s an epidemic of women and girls saying yes to things they should be saying no to and no to things they should be saying yes to.\u201d   \u201cMost people look at boundaries as being restrictive or depriving. I look at boundaries as the way we are carefully choosing and consciously curating the content of our own lives.\u201d   \u201cCulture has given \u2018selfish\u2019 a bad wrap; we pride ourselves on being \u2018selfless.\u2019 With selflessness, it\u2019s right there in the word, we disappear.\u201d   \u201cI often look as selfish, self care & self love as being 3 sisters whose job it is to support us in honouring ourselves.\u201d   \u201cMy transformation equation: Change = vision + choice + action.\u201d   \u201cOn the way to becoming, it\u2019s reintegrating qualities in ourselves that we have disowned and projected onto others, including the light and positive qualities we can step into.\u201d Links mentioned in this episode: Nancy Levin\u2019s website, podcast, books and coaching programs: https:\/\/nancylevin.com\/ Join The YES Effect Inner Circle Facebook Group for a behind the scenes experience about what it means to Believe, Belong and Become!   Join Shelli on Facebook Join Shelli on Instagram Join Shelli on YouTube ","author_name":"The YES Effect","author_url":"http:\/\/www.TheYesEffectShow.com","html":"