{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"#52. How-to do intimacy and vulnerability in friendships - with best friend Hailey Hosler - Part 2 of 3","description":"\u201cWe have to belong to ourselves as much as we need to belong to others. Any belonging that asks us to betray ourselves is not true belonging.\u201d \u2014 Brene Brown, Atlas of the Heart Belonging is the key to intimate friendships. Never once have I felt the need to change myself or be someone else around Amy, Tom, or Hailey. I\u2019ve always been able to be authentically received by them. Who is your support team? Who are the people who know how to hold you (metaphorically and physically) when you\u2019re having a tough day? When you\u2019re experiencing shame? Not enough-ness? Guilt? Anger? Grief? It took me a long time to find these people and cultivate what we have, but here is a 3 Part Series with my support team and a peek behind the curtain into what our conversations look like (via phone because they all live outside MN). So many clients ask me: \u201cHow do I cultivate intimate friendships?\u201d In a society wrought with fears and securities, it\u2019s so hard to trust anyone. It\u2019s hard to create a foundation of safety. Both parties need to be willing to take the risk and both parties need to be open and willing to hear how the other person wants to be loved. In this 3 Part Series, we talk to my 3 close friends \u2014 Tom, Amy, Hailey \u2014  checking in about the state of our friendship. What\u2019s working? What\u2019s not? What\u2019s hard? What\u2019s easy? They are raw recordings containing laughter, vulnerability, compassion, and love. We are all showing up with a lot of trust in these interviews. If you need a glimpse into hard and fulfilling relationship conversations, please listen. Part 1 with Tom: In this episode, we discuss our rift in friendship over time \u2014 we questioned why friendships of the opposite gender experience distance when a new dating perspective comes into play. We talk about our college experience and how our friendship developed due to close proximity and collaboration in art projects. We also talk about why this friendship is important and what we\u2019d like to see for ourselves in the future. Part 2 with Hailey: In this episode, Hailey and I talk about female friendships of our past \u2014 what worked and what didn\u2019t \u2014 recognizing that a lot of those friendships were centered around drama. We revisit a very hard conversation and disagreement about vaccines to showcase how to hold both compassion (and understanding) and disagreement in both hands lovingly. We close out with what we love about our friendship and what improvement can be made. Hailey and I co-peer a support group every other Sunday called \u201cAnxious Attached Hearts Club\u201d for those with anxious attachment who need a place to work it out and find more security in their community. Part 3 with Amy: In this episode, you\u2019ll see what a 12 year friendship looks like. I met Amy in college, so we discuss the early years of our friendship, getting to know each other, how we are both control freaks, how I tried to rescue Amy often in college (especially in her relationships). We discuss the ways in which we feel supported by each other \u2014 what we go to each other for. We\u2019ll discuss the areas in which we can step up our friendship and define what vulnerability and intimacy means for us in our friendship. We end with some sentiments and a conversation on trust. Interested in working with a Somatic Sex & Relationship Coach? Apply for 1on1 or couples coaching with me: www.ellenmelon.com\/intimacy-coaching Anxious Attached Hearts Club info here: https:\/\/calendly.com\/ellenmelon\/anxious-attached-hearts-club? ____________________ PARTS 1: https:\/\/tohumpapillow.libsyn.com\/51-how-to-intimacy-and-vulnerability-in-friendships-with-dear-friend-tom-wixo-part-1-of-3 PART 2: https:\/\/tohumpapillow.libsyn.com\/52-how-to-do-intimacy-and-vulnerability-in-friendships-with-best-friend-hailey-hosler-part-2-of-3 PART 3: https:\/\/tohumpapillow.libsyn.com\/53-how-to-do-intimacy-and-vulnerability-in-friendships-with-best-friend-amy-edler-part-3-of-3 __________   Instagram: https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/ellenmelonshow\/ Facebook: https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/ellenmelonshow Website: https:\/\/www.ellenmelon.com ____________________ ","author_name":"To Hump A Pillow with Coach Ellen Melon","author_url":"http:\/\/tohumpapillow.libsyn.com","html":"