{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"#192: Seeking safety + security might be ruining you....","description":"One of the main things drilled into us throughout our lives is that we need to \u2018obtain\u2019 safety + security, through a series of events.    A good stable paying job with benefits, saving for retirement, marriage, a house, kids, and other forms of social and material status. If you \u2018achieve\u2019 these you\u2019ve done something right\u2026 but have you?    Safety and security truly cannot come from something outside of us (a job, a relationship, money), because by its very nature it's meant to actually prioritize something that isn\u2019t just you.    Learning how to ride the various waves of life, the good, the bad, the inbetween with curiosity, openness and a knowing you\u2019ll be alright no matter what - that is true safety and security.    As we close out 2021 and move into 2022, I wanted this year's last podcast episode to be something that helps us all build a tool for a better future, and that tool is ourselves.    Sometimes we give up the very things that could liberate us in the most beautiful of ways, because we\u2019re afraid to give up some sense of safety + security (S+S). We always need to ask ourselves if what we\u2019re giving up is worth what we\u2019re getting in return.    I don\u2019t know if doing work that feels draining, daunting and unfulfilling for most of my life is worth any amount of S+S, but that's just me and you don\u2019t need to agree.    On this weeks (and the final of 2021) podcast episode we discuss\u2026   How the fear of shame traps us + what do to liberate ourselves from it  That meeting ourselves in our lowest and darkest moments is how we cultivate real safety and security (and what that looks like) That risk isn\u2019t just about the risk of doing something, it\u2019s also about the risk of doing nothing at all  A reminder that you are not your job title, the amount of money in your account, your marital status or anything else you feel \u2018defines you\u2019 and keeps your safe That progress is really what we want to focus on with our goals and dreams and that you\u2019re probably doing a better job than you\u2019re giving yourself credit for.  I hope you have a lovely holiday season. I am signing off for a few weeks and will be back in the new year.    You\u2019ve got this my friend!    Lana    If you enjoy these conversations, check out The Lighthouse Collective. It\u2019s a community for socially and spiritually conscious entrepreneurs building a better world together. We talk about topics like this in even more interactive and supportive ways.   If you are interested in working 1-on-1 with me to help grow your business, I would love to connect with you on a free coaching call here. Learn more about my coaching services here ","author_name":"Changing The Story with Lana Dingwall","author_url":"http:\/\/www.lanadingwall.com","html":"