{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"\u2026and WE BREATHE, A Conversation For and About Caregivers and Self-Care with Loren Gelberg-Goff, LCSW, Author and Speaker EP: 15","description":"According to Loren Gelberg-Goff, LCSW, ask any caregiver how they\u2019re doing, and they\u2019ll tell you they are \u201cfine.\u201d But, if you take a moment, she suggests, and really ask them how they\u2019re feeling, you\u2019ll discover they may be stressed, full of guilt, anger or resentment---altogether not fine. Somewhere early along the road to caring for a loved one, she points out, caregivers learn to put their own needs on hold. Whether a necessary or chosen caregiving commitment, caregivers take on an assumption that their loved one must ALWAYS be viewed as the priority, at all times and in all situations. In our conversation Loren and I discuss how she opens their eyes to the reality that, to be able to sustain their ability to provide effective and loving care over any length of time, the exact opposite is true: caregivers must be sure that their own needs are met as well. \u201cI work to reach caregivers where and when they need the most help.\u201d she says. \u201cI want to assure them that their wellbeing is just as profoundly important as that of the people they care for.\u201d \u201cI want to teach them new habits and perspectives that will empower them to treat themselves with love, kindness, generosity and compassion.\u201d T In this episode we discuss: \u25cf How caregivers can create 3 crucial boundaries that assure they take care of themselves first \u25cf How caregivers can release the overwhelming impulse to do things for others simply out of guilt \u25cf Why caregivers need to make clear requests of others without fear of being judged or rejected \u25cf How and why caregivers need to get clear about what they WANT to happen, versus what they THINK they can achieve \u25cf The #1 tool for caregivers to stop communications from becoming explosive confrontations in seconds \u25cf The one crucial sentence that caregivers should use to receive support from others and change their life forever \u25cf Why caregivers need to consistently make themselves a priority, clear in the knowledge that YES, they really do matter \u25cf Why is it so important to just BREATHE And so much more\u2026 LISTEN NOW \u201cYou owe it to yourself and your loved ones to be the best-cared-for, happiest version of yourself possible,\u201d says Loren. \u201cYou really can be relaxed, compassionate, resilient and loving - and embrace each day without stress or regret.\u201d \u201cAs a caregiver,\u201d continues Loren, \u201cyou just need the tools and practices for creating empowering new habits that lead to a life more like the one you\u2019ve been wishing for.\u201d Connect with Loren: Website LinkedIn Twitter ","author_name":"Help Me 2 Understand","author_url":"http:\/\/helpme2understand.libsyn.com\/website","html":"