{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"Parenting a Child Struggling with Substance Abuse with Brenda Zane","description":"Dr. Josh King welcomes you to another episode and a new season of The Beyond Addiction Show.   Today, Dr. King is accompanied by Brenda Zane, a mother who decided to do something to support other fellow mothers in the difficult journey of parenting a child struggling with substance abuse. Brenda is a certified Health and Wellness Coach, and the host of Hopestream, a podcast for parents of kids who are misusing drugs or alcohol or are in treatment or early recovery.   Key Takeaways: [2:53] Brenda talks about the feeling of being alone when you are a parent of a child that is abusing drugs or alcohol. [4:15] Brenda talks about the feeling when a parent wonders how he\/she will be able to balance all their responsibilities plus a child struggling with addiction. [6:10] Brenda shares the journey that brought her where she is today. [8:30] When doing \u201ceverything\u201d is not enough. [9:12] Brenda did not really understand addiction and she felt she just had a bad kid who was doing bad things and just needed to stop. [11:10] Addiction is a way to cope, but the user might not know this. [12:09] Things got worse. [14:40] Brenda built a community of people that she could relate to (mostly moms). [15:57] When you don\u2019t have enough information, searching on Google is so scary. [17:37] Brenda describes The Stream, an online community for mothers with children struggling with substance abuse, where they can get support and resources. [22:01] Brenda shares how her life has changed as a result of what they went through together with her son and turned that into something she could use to support other people going through the same. [26:48] How did Brenda pass the feelings of guilt and shame and finally reach self-care? [29:54] Brenda talks about how the abnormal can become normal. [31:13] Everyone\u2019s story is a little different. [32:25] Brenda talks about the first steps: Take care of yourself and get educated. [34:18] Brenda explains why you should have NARCAN in your house if your daughter or son are abusing substances. [40:40] Stigma prevents parents from looking for resources and moving quickly to help their children. [42:36] Shame does not work, it does not motivate anyone to change. [44:36] Find a therapist, you will need one on your team! [45:09] What does it look like to come to The Stream for the first time? [48:57] The Stream is a community meant to support parents.   Mentioned in this Episode: The Beyond Addiction Show Center for Motivation and Change Center for Motivation and Change on Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn   Email Dr. Josh King at beyondaddiction@motivationandchange.com or tweet him at @DocJoshKing   The Stream     ","author_name":"The Beyond Addiction Show","author_url":"http:\/\/www.motivationandchange.com","html":"