{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"#142 - 4 Essentials for Mastering Boundaries (Part I)","description":"I\u2019m lucky enough to have been able to give myself the gift of a 27-day sabbatical, which gave me so much clarity into both my personal and professional life. And now that I\u2019m back, I\u2019m inspired to offer some insight about the four common challenges I see across all sorts of boundary questions in various situations. I\u2019ll cover the first two challenges today, and the third and fourth next week.   Biggest Takeaways From Episode #142: Even if it\u2019s only a few minutes a day, please carve out a few minutes a day for yourself. It\u2019s important to give yourself the gift of time even if your life is incredibly full and busy. Most questions about boundaries, regardless of the specific details, center around four specific challenges:  Who\u2019s Got the Power? Stinkin\u2019 Thinkin\u2019 Live and Let Live Change, So That I Can Feel Better There are essentially two kinds of power: \u201cPower Over\u201d and \u201cAuthentic Personal Power.\u201d The first type is based in control and fear; we all need to strive for the second type. Stinkin\u2019 Thinkin\u2019 is thinking that\u2019s distorted. You may think that how someone treats you determines how you treat them, or that you need to be on the same page and think the same way as other people.   Highlights from Episode #142: Vicki welcomes listeners to the episode and talks about the value of carving out some time for yourself. [00:39] The next Boundaries Clarifier Workshop will take place on July 27, 2021. [04:10] After receiving hundreds of questions, Vicki has noticed that the majority center around four specific challenges. She will cover the first two today. [05:26] Vicki talks about the first of the four challenges: Who\u2019s Got the Power? [10:58] We hear a list of qualities that describe acting from a place of authentic personal power. She also talks about the difference between personal power and ultimatums. [15:25] What does it look like when you think you don\u2019t have power? [20:43] Vicki moves on to talking about the second challenge: Stinkin\u2019 Thinkin\u2019. [26:12] Being unconscious of what\u2019s going on with us is another kind of distorted thinking. Vicki shares an example from her own life. [31:53] Vicki explains why Stinkin\u2019 Thinkin\u2019 is such a problem. [36:48]   Links and Resources: Vicki\u2019s monthly Boundaries Clarifier Workshops Vicki Tidwell Palmer Vicki Tidwell Palmer on Facebook Moving Beyond Betrayal by Vicki Tidwell Palmer 5-Step Boundary Solution Clarifier Vicki Tidwell Palmer on Instagram The Radiant Threefold Path Beyond Bitchy on Spotify Pia Mellody ","author_name":"Beyond Bitchy: Mastering the Art of Boundaries","author_url":"https:\/\/victoriapriya.com","html":"