{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"#134 - Using the Talking Format (Part 3 of a Deeper Dive Into the Talking Boundary)","description":"Are you ready for the third part of my series on the talking boundary? This one is all about a specific process from the work of Pia Mellody: the Talking Format. This strategy is a roadmap around how to share information with another person, and is ideal for challenging conversations. If you\u2019ve ever found yourself struggling with how to express yourself effectively in a difficult interpersonal situation, don\u2019t miss this episode! &amp;nbsp; Biggest Takeaways From Episode #134:  The Talking Format consists of three parts:  Tell the other person about the data you observed to give a concrete example of the issue you\u2019re raising. Explain what you thought, perceived, or made up based on the data. Share the emotions that you feel around the situation.   When you\u2019re using the Talking Format, make sure you have enough physical space to say what you want to say. Pay attention to what your body is telling you. The purpose of sharing is to be known and foster intimacy, not to blame, shame, control, criticize, or manipulate. If you become aware that your intention is to control or manipulate, you\u2019re not yet ready to have the conversation.  &amp;nbsp; Highlights from Episode #134:  Welcome to the third and final part of Vicki\u2019s series on the talking boundary! Check out the last two episodes if you haven\u2019t yet heard  part one one and part two of the series. [00:39] What is the Talking Format? Vicki shares the three basic steps. [03:45] Vicki offers an example to help illustrate how to use the technique she\u2019s sharing today. [08:34] We learn more about how to use the Talking Format as part of the talking boundary. [12:22] When you\u2019re sharing, remind yourself that you\u2019re not blaming the other person. [15:39] You can approach a solution by expressing how you would prefer things to be. Vicki talks about how this might work in her example. [20:57] Vicki shares one last point about the Talking Format: it\u2019s an actionable way to use the first step of the 5-Step Boundary Solution. [26:46]  &amp;nbsp; Links and Resources:  Vicki\u2019s monthly Boundaries Clarifier Workshops The Talking Format (handout referenced in this episode) Vicki Tidwell Palmer Vicki Tidwell Palmer on Facebook Moving Beyond Betrayal by Vicki Tidwell Palmer 5-Step Boundary Solution Clarifier Vicki Tidwell Palmer on Instagram The Radiant Threefold Path  Beyond Bitchy on Spotify  Beyond Bitchy Podcast | Episode #132 \u2013 She Said What?! Part I of A Deeper Dive Into the Talking Boundary  Beyond Bitchy Podcast | Episode #133 \u2013 Speaking to Be Heard (Part 2 of a Deeper Dive Into the Talking Boundary)  Beyond Bitchy Podcast | Episode #1 \u2013 Boundaries: What They Are and Why They\u2019re So Misunderstood (start here and work your way forward for the foundations of this podcast!) Pia Mellody  &amp;nbsp; ","author_name":"Beyond Bitchy: Mastering the Art of Boundaries","author_url":"https:\/\/victoriapriya.com","html":"<iframe title=\"Libsyn Player\" style=\"border: none\" src=\"\/\/html5-player.libsyn.com\/embed\/episode\/id\/19157678\/height\/90\/theme\/custom\/thumbnail\/yes\/direction\/forward\/render-playlist\/no\/custom-color\/88AA3C\/\" height=\"90\" width=\"600\" scrolling=\"no\"  allowfullscreen webkitallowfullscreen mozallowfullscreen oallowfullscreen msallowfullscreen><\/iframe>","thumbnail_url":"https:\/\/assets.libsyn.com\/secure\/item\/19157678"}