{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"#132 - She Said What?! Part I of A Deeper Dive Into the Talking Boundary","description":"By special request, I\u2019m doing a deeper dive into the talking boundary. I\u2019ve mentioned this boundary in 25 episodes, but I\u2019ve never gone into the level of depth that it deserves. When your talking boundary is functioning well, you express yourself in a healthy, relational way while sharing your authentic reality. You may be surprised by some examples of what talking boundary violations look like, so tune in to learn all about this important topic!   Biggest Takeaways From Episode #132: The talking boundary is the mindful, healthy filter between your thoughts and your words. At the extremes, a person has no filter and they say whatever comes to mind\u2014or they don\u2019t share anything. We\u2019re aiming for somewhere in the middle. \u201cUnbridled self-expression,\u201d as Terry Real calls it, is not an example of a functional talking boundary. Neither is erring on the side of being only nice or pleasant with your words, regardless of your true feelings. When we get activated or triggered, we can lose the filter between our thoughts and words, and start reacting instead of responding.   Highlights from Episode #132: Vicki explains the inspiration for this episode, and reveals that she\u2019ll start by talking about the violations that fall under the talking boundary. [00:39] What is the talking boundary? [03:55] We learn about the healthy middle for the talking boundary. [07:17] Vicki digs into what the talking boundary is not, including why the idea that \u201cif you don\u2019t have anything nice to say, you shouldn\u2019t say anything at all\u201d can be problematic. [11:27] If someone doesn\u2019t receive your words the way you intended, sometimes an outside opinion can be helpful. [16:10] Why is the talking boundary so challenging and complex? [18:03] Vicki shares many examples of talking boundary violations, including teasing another person and the silent treatment, among others. [20:44] Did this episode resonate with you, or remind you of yourself (or someone else)? If so, keep in mind that this is a challenging boundary. [34:27]   Links and Resources: Vicki\u2019s monthly boundaries clarifier workshops Vicki Tidwell Palmer Vicki Tidwell Palmer on Facebook Moving Beyond Betrayal by Vicki Tidwell Palmer 5-Step Boundary Solution Clarifier Vicki Tidwell Palmer on Instagram The Radiant Threefold Path Beyond Bitchy on Spotify Pia Mellody Beyond Bitchy Podcast | Episode #2 \u2013 What Good Boundaries Can Do For You + The 5 Types and 2 Functions of Boundaries Terry Real   ","author_name":"Beyond Bitchy: Mastering the Art of Boundaries","author_url":"https:\/\/victoriapriya.com","html":"