{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"Episode 43: How Couples Therapy Helps With More Than Just Money Fights","description":"If what has always helped you through life\u2019s challenges just isn\u2019t working anymore, it\u2019s okay to seek help. Could couples therapy be a fit? Therapy isn\u2019t the \u2018lay on a couch and share your feelings\u2019 eye-rolling event the movies portray. When done well, it can help you and your partner get closer and happier than ever.  70% of adults have experienced some level of trauma in their lives. When you become a couple, knowing your potential triggers is key! This will help to navigate intense, emotional conversations and to support each other when you need it most. Every couple can benefit from learning about and discovering how to use tools to improve communication and resolve conflicts. For the disagreements that seem to be chronic, or at an impasse, there\u2019s more to it than just a compromise.   A therapist can help you discover a solution. This week\u2019s guest, Ryan Baker, shows you how it\u2019s done. A few highlights:  - The Four Horsemen of a failing relationship are: (1) criticism, (2) contempt, (3) defensiveness, and (4) stonewalling. Any of the four can be addressed and worked through in therapy, and this can repair or save the relationship. [7:49] - Experiences we have as children and as adults continuously form and impact our core beliefs. The core beliefs that form over a lifetime affect everything - money, trust, relationships, friendships, and more. This is true even if you don\u2019t realize that core belief exists or know why! [14:21] - What happens if you as a couple can\u2019t or don\u2019t want to participate in therapy? couples avoid therapy over financial concerns, assumed stigmas, or because one partner refuses. In this case, individual therapy is an option. Also, something you can do right now, for free, is to (1) recognize and become acutely aware of your thoughts and (2) evaluate their validity. [19:55] Connect with Ryan, get some freebies, and find out more HERE! ------------- How healthy is your relationship with money & your honey? Find out HERE! And for more money & relationships resources from your host, Adam Kol, visit: https:\/\/CouplesFinancialCoach.com Note: This podcast was formerly known as The Equal Partners Podcast. ","author_name":"Couples Financial Coach Podcast","author_url":"https:\/\/CouplesFinancialCoach.com\/","html":"