{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"#124 - Repeat After Me: I Am Not Responsible For Other People's Feelings!","description":"You are not responsible for other people\u2019s feelings. This may feel hard to believe if you tend to immediately feel responsible and guilty when someone is upset with you (as many of us do!). Tune in to learn how to navigate situations where someone else is blaming you for their reaction or feelings, and why it\u2019s so dangerous to believe that we are responsible.   Biggest Takeaways From Episode #124: When you find yourself starting to take on the blame for someone being upset with you, start by asking yourself, \u201cis it true that whenever someone is upset with me, I did something wrong?\u201d Can you think of even one exception? Here\u2019s a script you can use if you know that you tend to take on the blame when someone is upset with you: \u201cThanks for sharing your feelings with me. I need to take a couple hours (or minutes, or days) to think about what you shared, and then I\u2019ll get back to you.\u201d During the time you\u2019re taking to think over the topic, assess whether you\u2019re responsible for their feelings. Did you violate their boundaries in any way? Were you rude? Did you curse or call them names? Did you act in an offensive way? Is there another possible response that they might have had? Asking these questions will help you get clarity on whether you believe you\u2019re responsible.   Highlights from Episode #124: Vicki welcomes listeners to the episode, which is all about emphasizing that you are not responsible for other people\u2019s feelings. [00:39] We hear why Vicki is focusing on this topic today. [03:10] There are consequences and distorted beliefs that arise from thinking we\u2019re responsible, Vicki explains. [08:14] Vicki shares a question to ask yourself when you\u2019re in this situation, and shares an example from her own life. [10:46] We hear more advice on how to manage someone trying to hand you the blame for their feelings. [16:10] Doing the kind of inner exploration that Vicki has described will help you learn to be more objective in emotional situations. [21:50] Vicki offers examples of how your thoughts can lead to various responses to the same situation. [24:23]   Links and Resources: Vicki\u2019s monthly Boundaries Clarifier Workshops Vicki Tidwell Palmer Vicki Tidwell Palmer on Facebook Moving Beyond Betrayal by Vicki Tidwell Palmer 5-Step Boundary Solution Clarifier Vicki Tidwell Palmer on Instagram The Radiant Threefold Path Beyond Bitchy on Spotify Beyond Bitchy Podcast | Episode #1 \u2013 Boundaries: What They Are and Why They\u2019re So Misunderstood (start here and work your way forward for the foundations of this podcast!) Beyond Bitchy Podcast | Episode #37 \u2013 The Listening Boundary Part 1 Beyond Bitchy Podcast | Episode #39 \u2013 The Listening Boundary Part 2 Beyond Bitchy Podcast | Episode #40 \u2013 The Listening Boundary Part 3 ","author_name":"Beyond Bitchy: Mastering the Art of Boundaries","author_url":"https:\/\/victoriapriya.com","html":"