{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"#114 - COVID-19 Boundary Challenges & the Holidays (Pandemic Episodes)","description":"Happy Thanksgiving! This episode is coming out just in time to help you navigate the complexities of holidays in the time of COVID-19 (although the points about safety are always relevant). As we explore this new complex landscape, let's take some time to talk about boundaries, agreements, and the freedom to choose.    Biggest Takeaways From Episode #114: When you hear words like \u201clet\u201d or \u201cmade\u201d (in the sense of \u201cmaking\u201d someone do something), they often indicate that the person using them doesn\u2019t fully understand how boundaries work. If you make a request and someone else freely agrees, no one is being \u201cmade\u201d to do anything. And the act of making a request isn\u2019t controlling, because it recognizes the freedom that the other person has to make their own decisions. During the pandemic, we\u2019re faced with many dilemmas as we navigate what to do based on what the people around us are doing (or not doing).  Remember that you get to decide what\u2019s best for you, and for the people in your care. Other people also get to decide what\u2019s best for them, including requiring that you get tested before you come to their house.   Highlights from Episode #114: Welcome back to the show! Today\u2019s episode was inspired by a listener\u2019s question about how to  apply boundaries around different perceptions of safety regarding COVID-19. [00:39] Vicki responds to the listener, complimenting her boundary work and pointing out that parents are responsible for their children\u2019s safety. [04:25] We hear about where the listener\u2019s question becomes a little bit confusing\u2014and why her opportunity to negotiate boundaries will go on for years or decades. [13:18] Vicki explores one of the most challenging parts of boundaries during COVID-19, and returns to addressing questions of freedom and control. [17:03] You are the decider for what is best for you and the people in your care. [22:38]   Links and Resources: Vicki Tidwell Palmer Vicki Tidwell Palmer on Facebook Moving Beyond Betrayal by Vicki Tidwell Palmer 5-Step Boundary Solution Clarifier Vicki Tidwell Palmer on Instagram The Radiant Threefold Path Beyond Bitchy on Spotify ","author_name":"Beyond Bitchy: Mastering the Art of Boundaries","author_url":"https:\/\/victoriapriya.com","html":"