{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"#54 - Fighting Fair: Setting Boundaries In Conflict","description":"As human beings with trauma and triggers, fighting is inevitable. But how you fight can be the difference between learning from a situation and just stirring up old wounds. In this short episode, I\u2019ll teach you the art of setting conflict boundaries so you can fight fair, every time. In this episode, you will hear: How having no set rules for conflict can lead to messy, triggering situations (and how boundaries prevent fights from getting gnarly) What to do when someone crosses a boundary you\u2019ve set in place How to honor the other person and yourself while you\u2019re working out a disagreement Why setting boundaries and enforcing boundaries are two totally different things The role a neutral third party can play in conflict resolution (and when to use one) Coaching Questions & Thoughts:   Have you ever set any conflict boundaries? If so, did you enforce them? Is there a conflict boundary you often have trouble enforcing? Why? When your conflicts go south, what happens? Do things get mean? Do you shut down? Get specific. What is one or two conflict boundaries you\u2019d like to set for future conflicts? What\u2019s important to you when it comes to fighting fair? Think about a recent conflict you had. How could the boundary you\u2019ve chosen to set help resolve that situation? Quotes: \u201cWe often have no rulebooks to subscribe to that help us manage those conflicts in a way that honors the other person and yourself while you're working out a disagreement.\u201d - Shereen Thor \u201cBoundaries are nothing if they are not enforced.\u201d - Shereen Thor \u201cWe got pain points from the past, and when they get pushed, we can pop off.\u201d - Shereen Thor Resources: Stop keeping up with the Jones\u2019 and learn all the science-based tips I learned from Yale on what actually makes us happy! Download the free happiness cheat sheet at: www.awakentherebel.com. ","author_name":"Awaken The Rebel","author_url":"https:\/\/awakentherebel.com\/cheatsheet\/","html":"