{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"#41 - Do Women Get to be Selfish?","description":"Let me prep you for the insane rant you are about to witness (and hopefully enjoy lol). In this week\u2019s episode I discuss the Martyr Archetype. Women (especially after they become mothers) are viewed as selfish when they prioritize themselves and it\u2019s disgusting. Today I get kind of wild with my cuss words after hearing a friend refer to herself as a C word for establishing and holding her boundaries. She had a coffee date planned with a friend and wouldn\u2019t cancel it when her partner expressed last minute distress (a woman with boundaries \u2013 oh the shame!). You\u2019ll also hear a story of when I was called a \u201cnarcissist\u201d by a prominent woman in leadership for being enthusiastic about prioritizing my needs at an event in front of 400 other woman lol. This energy of shaming women into martyrdom is disgusting and I gave myself the gift of having a gnarly rebel rant about it today. If you ever feel guilty for prioritizing your health and wellness as a woman, listen up because this rant\u2019s for you sister! Enjoy! In this episode you will here: How society holds women & mothers to an unrealistic standard How guilt is so pervasive amongst women for choosing themselves. How putting yourself last hurts you (and your family) long term How sometimes empowerment means saying \u201cno\u201d How life is meant to be lived and enjoyed on your terms How some women have chosen not to prioritize themselves, but that doesn\u2019t mean you have to follow their lead. Coaching Questions & Thoughts Do you live life on your time making your own priorities? What are some lies you believe about what it means for you to take time for yourself? How do you feel when you put yourself last and don\u2019t prioritize your needs? What are ways you can start prioritizing yourself today? List 3 things you can focus on this coming week. Fun Quotes worth pulling: \u201cCan we just acknowledge how insane it is that a woman feels like a selfish cunt if she says \u201cno\u201d and prioritizes her joy?\u201d \u201cWe are women. We are supposed to do it all, right? We\u2019re supposed to look perfect, have the meals cooked, take care of the kids 24\/7, not a need to inconvenience anyone else - and do it with a smile.\u201d \u201cIf being called a selfish cunt is what needs to happen to me for me to actually have a moment of joy and freedom away from my children, a moment of serenity overlooking the lake having a cappuccino with a girlfriend, I am here for it!\u201d \u201cThis life is meant to be lived and enjoyed. I often feel that, as people pleasers and as women, we live life but sort of on everyone else\u2019s terms and make everyone else\u2019s priorities our priorities.\u201d \u201cI am calling into question the racist male patriarchy that even suggests a woman is a selfish cunt if she prioritizes her happiness.\u201d \u201cI 100% rebel against and reject any system that makes a woman feel like a narcissist for being happy, prioritizing her needs and requiring her partner to show up for the family.\u201d \u201cWe as women have subscribed to a trash system.\u201d \u201cThis paradigm that makes women wrong for prioritizing their needs is so unhealthy. Please, please AWAKEN THE REBEL. Because sometimes when the system is fucked it\u2019s real good to be bad.\u201d Resources:   www.awakentherebel.com (Stop keeping up with the Jones\u2019! Download the happiness cheat sheet - learn all the science-based tips I learned at Yale!) ","author_name":"Awaken The Rebel","author_url":"https:\/\/awakentherebel.com\/cheatsheet\/","html":"